Am I too old to learn how to please a woman sexually? Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt says…
Question: This is a little difficult to ask a stranger, but here goes. I’ll be 50 in December, and feel that I don’t know how to perform oral properly on a woman. I’ve got little experience, due to most women stopping me. Where would I learn this? I can’t seem to find women that will help. I’d really like that too be part of my sexual experiences.
Answer: NO! You are never too old! Hell I’m 45… almost as old as you! xox We all learn at our own pace. We all have our areas of challenge. Unless they’re kicking dirt in your face, you’re not too old.
While I’m confident in my ability to be life changing relationship coach, I am also a perpetual student. Thus I designed my business to keep me humble, growing and being vulnerable with my community that I kick ass over here, and over there I require support. Thus a wonderful repeat guest is Jaiya and she is in a fabulous product you can find at www.AllanaPratt.com/steamy-sex.
I have watched about 1/2 of the DVDs. It’s classy, beautiful and Jaiya’s voice teaches you how to perform various sexual practices with your partner. I think it’s perfect for you! (and me too! I mean can oral sex really ever be mastered?)
So that’s the proactive part of my coaching for you. Now, in terms of your inner world, even if you do all the right things yet feel nervous, shameful, insecure or all thumbs (or tongues xox), then all your hard work goes down the drain because she FEELS your lack of presence, certainty. Your self judgement makes her feel unsafe, on guard which is potentially the REAL reason she’s not orgasming.
Great man, be willing to do forgiveness work, you’ve done your best every step of the way with the knowledge you had, yes? Be willing to release shame about your sexual adventures thus far so you can cast a clean slate in this moment and open to all the joy that’s possible. Be willing to let go of judging yourself as too old to have pleasure. Old dogs learn new tricks all the time… all they have to do is let go of the gunk inside their heart, and potently CHOOSE what they will create… and take action.
A great way to let go of the ‘gunk’ and heal your wounded heart is to download my complementary report and video series at www.GetHerToSayYes.com I’m very proud of the Heart Healing Guided Meditations I’ve created for men that have erased decades of pain for members of my community.
Please decide to stop judging yourself once and for all. Ask What’s the gift in learning even more about sex in my 50’s? I’m sure there’s got to be SOME woman out there who you cherish, who’d love you to practice on her! In my women’s community I often get the opposite complaint, that He never takes time to pleasure me anymore!… you will stand out in the pack, you noble badass!
Deliciously, Allana xox
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