Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert, talks straight to a man who ‘thought’ he was happily married until…
Question: I am a happily married man but I think I am falling in love with another woman! Nothing has happened between us but we just have so much in common and I feel so connected to her. We find ourselves talking for hours and it is just – perfect. I don’t want to be unfaithful to my wife but I don’t want to be unfair to her either.
Answer: So many questions to ask YOU love! So first, were you REALLY happily married if you have met someone you feel so connected to? Had you become complacent in your marriage? Had you forgotten to give sunshine, water, fertilizer to nourish your marriage? Had you two forgotten to have date night, be grateful for one another… how long have you been ‘happily’ married?
Next love, do you have an open marriage? Have you ever talked about what happens if one of you gets attracted to another person? Do you have open lines of communication in place to discuss intense topics while staying honoring and connected? Have you agreed to monogamy?
I don’t believe one person can fulfill our EVERY need and I think it’s healthy for each partner to have people outside the marriage that fulfill some of their needs. Yet if you’ve made the commitment of monogamy and you want to sleep with this woman, if you know it’s just a matter of time before you sleep with her… then whoa nelly…it’s time to get real, get honest and communicate with your wife.
If it’s just an infatuation and you can promise yourself NOT to get physically intimate… I know this may not be PC, yet I have honestly successfully coached some men AND women in long term marriages who have wanted to have affairs… NOT to sleep with them! Instead to keep asking, What is this other person awakening in me? I coach them to be grateful for this catalyst waking up their mojo. Then let the infatuation, hormones and chemicals run their course… and now go BE this more full awakened self and CREATE that connection in the marriage!
Most of the time, this process sparks new passion, aliveness and gratitude in the marriage. Occasionally the marriage was already over, they were avoiding it, the new person just put it right in their face… and I’ve coached them through ‘consciously uncoupling’.
See, it’s honestly an illusion that you are only alive around this new woman. … she’s waking up a part of you that’s always been inside you. She’s not the Source of your joy. Honest. Your joy has and always will be IN YOU. If you’re committed to making your marriage work, keeps asking, What is it going to take to be this fully expressed and alive me IN my marriage?
Sometimes one marriage partner unknowingly (or knowingly) keeps the other partner small, so as to feel safe, control them, not rock the boat. Then you bump into a stranger who doesn’t hold you back and Whooosh! The expansion and freedom is intoxicating!
I see everything the Universe brings us as a gift to grow. Some gifts hurt like hell, some are excruciatingly sad and others still are erotically intimately phenomenal… yet ALL a gift.
I betcha in a single coaching session I can get to the gift in this, ask you non judgmental potent questions to get you to your deepest truth, so with clarity, courage and heart, you can make the choices a noble badass would make.
If that resonates with you, contact my [email protected] Subj: GMP sent me. And if you’re ready to learn more about how I help men become Kings and savor a deep fulfilling intimate relationship with their perfect mate, download my complementary report and video series at www.GetHerToSayYes.com
And breathe. Stay present. Stay in your body. EMBODY your inner noble badass who won’t steer you wrong. Deliciously, Allana xoox