Question: I feel as if I wear two masks when I am dating. When I am on a date, I try to be the person they desire; however, when I am back home or out with friends, I am myself again. How can I feel comfortable being myself when I am dating?
Answer: This is such a fantastic and common question that I get… thank you for reaching out 🙂
There are two fundamental ways to view life and especially dating. The first is that you’re worth is generated from another person’s opinion of you. The second is your worth is sourced from the inside out.
When you allow your date’s agreement with you, approval of you, liking of you… to be the basis on which you are enough… you will always give your power away to their opinion of you and you’ll always wear ‘a mask’ trying to get their approval so that you lower your risk of rejection.
However, if you source your sense of worthiness and belonging and enough’ness from the inside out because you have a solid relationship with what I call, Little You, while you’d prefer people like you… you won’t be taken off center if they are not a match for you. You’ll be grateful for the chance to meet someone and willingly set them free. You’ll have freedom to be yourself, authentic and fully self expressed.
Sourcing your sense of safety, approval and appreciation from the inside out will honestly make you tremendously irresistible and sexy, not to mention feel confident, authentic and free… no longer spinning in your head trying to pretzel yourself into a position of getting approval by somebody who you can’t even control in the first place!
You will instead have access to a deep presence, grounded’ness, awareness and discernment because you’re not three steps ahead trying to be good enough and figure out what to say in the conversation so as not to be rejected! You’re actually right there with the person… having an intimate, honest and real moment… As deep as eternity and wide as the Universe… and totally out of control ready to receive all the magic the mystery has to offer. It’s quite magical really! And quite breathtaking when you take that level of presence into lovemaking… Yes? 🙂
So how on earth do you dissolve these two personalities you’ve been dealing with and blend yourself into One Magnificent You? (This is what I call a noble bad ass.) I’m so happy you asked!
If you go to www.GetHerToSayYes.com there is a complementary training called How to be a Noble Badass that is absolutely phenomenal to get you started at no cost whatsoever. I’m sure you will find value in that… and if so, I encourage you to move forward with my multi media training called Get Her To Say Yes 101, or my two part book and audiobook fully equipped with inspiring hot photos… called Scoring A Relationship where I’ll set you up to turn gifts into experiences she will never forget, so you never have to worry about how to impress her on a date, I’ll provide 10 ideas from start to finish that will rock her world.
If you’re still having challenges being present and being yourself that indicates that the wound in your heart runs deep which is actually very common. Great success healing this with instant access can be found in my 6 module home-study curriculum called Dear Lover. Or my Live 9 wk Group Program runs once a year in December called Heart Splayed Wide Open- 9 Weeks to a Soul Shaking Conscious Relationship. That’s only offered to people in my community so be sure to stay connected with my weekly newsletter… www.GetHerToSayYes.com
Additionally, every month I open a few spots available for complementary strategy sessions for people who are a 10 out of 10 ready for private coaching with me. You can apply for one of those spots at AllanaPratt.com/connect.
Bottom line I am here for you in many ways no matter what your budget and style of learning!
Your birthright is to be a noble bad ass, when you live with your heart open you are grounded and connected to your true wisdom, power and freedom. When doubtful thoughts dissolve and you are present with your date, the level of intimacy will be so nourishing to your soul that you will be unforgettable to her… And completely fulfilled as your true self.
It’s my privilege and honor to support you in getting there. I can’t wait to see how we move forward together 🙂 All my love, Allana
p.s. Gentlemen…End the Fear of Rejection.
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Ladies…Be irresistible. Feel sacred. Attract him now.
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