While I was researching this article, I looked to see if there were any articles thanking men. Guess what? They are few and far between.
I want to take a moment to thank you; all the Good Men out there. Why?”
Let me backtrack a bit.
While I was researching this article, I looked to see if there were any articles thanking men. Guess what? They are few and far between. We thank women all the time for all they do. We thank our mothers and fathers, we thank veterans, we thank first responders, we even thank our pets, but not much of a thank you to good men just for being who they are.
For years, I thanked only those men who gave me some incredibly hard lessons, I thanked them because I learned from them. Today, I am in complete gratitude to all of the men in my life for the lessons. Because of those lessons, I have found a partner who is my equal on every level. Because of those men, I have grown personally and now work with men and women everywhere and pass on the healing and the knowledge from those lessons learned.
So, all of this has led me here, and I want to acknowledge you, the good men!
Good men are becoming easier and easier to spot. It’s been a long time coming, and we, as women are so happy to see it.
What makes a good man from my perspective? It’s the little things AND the big things.
To me a good man is a man who:
- Will take care of his partner.
- Will smile, hug, give a back rub, share in the house work.
- Will call in the middle of the day just to say Hi.
- Will empower his partner to be all that he/she can be.
- Will be there for his children, and nurture them to help them be all that they can be.
- Will be proud if his partner makes more money than he does. He knows the job does not define the man.
- Will occasionally surprise his partner, in a good way.
- Will make plans for the future, both long and short term.
- Will listen, hear and understands with his heart.
- Will protect his partner, and family.
- Will serenade his partner.
- Will sit and let his partner cry it out, or stamp his/her feet until it is all out.
- Will have done some of his work, and will be there for his partner while they work through their own stuff.
- Will build things, fix things, invent things.
- Will have his own life, his own hobbies, his own sense of worth.
- Will not depend on his partner for his financial life or his emotional life, now will he want his partner to be his reason for living.
I believe a good man realizes that his own self worth is where the riches are. It isn’t in the car, the house, the bling, or the job. It’s what shines out of his heart. That is the real bling.
Men, even if you only bring one of these items to the table, it’s a start. Keep growing and learning. Whatever lessons you might have learned, remember this: The blessing is in the lesson. It might be hard to see that sometimes. When I think of all the things that I have endured, and the amazing teachers I have had (both good and bad), I am so very grateful for the life I have with my partner today. Life CAN be AWESOME.
Thank you for being you and for growing and expanding into your greatness.
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