Question: What intimacy tips do you have for someone who has been emotionally unavailable for a really long time? My last breakup was destructive and left me on the brink. I am finally seeing someone else and I just can’t let go.
Answer: I love your question… Intimacy can be broken down into the words ‘into me I see’ and indeed if you’ve been emotionally unavailable for a really long time, it probably hasn’t been fun to see into you, yes?
If the last break up was destructive and left you on the brink… It doesn’t sound like you were able to process the lesson and integrate the healing and instead have been left feeling unsafe, insecure, not enough and not home in your skin, yes?
And now that you’re seeing someone, you’re having trouble letting go of the past? Letting go and trusting? All of this sounds totally understandable given what you went through and given that I sensed you have some healing to do my love 🙂
You’ve probably noticed that avoiding the pain doesn’t work, and putting sprinkles on top of the ice cream cone of shit with positive affirmations doesn’t work either, does it? You probably noticed that something uncontrollable takes you over that feels like fighter flight and disconnect you from your intelligence and your confidence even though you’d like to let go and feel happy and free, yes?
I like to imagine that there’s a little you inside who’s hurting that we need to tend to and heal, and then the scientific nerd in me knows that we have to destroy cellular memories and images in your conscious and subconscious to raise your vibration to one of allowance and love and joy and peace so that you can be present and discerning and joyously alive.
I’ll be honest that my books and CDs and DVDs are helpful, yet with all transparency to heal somebody of these deep wounds always takes working in a group coaching program or a private coaching program. And that would make sense as Reading books about exercising are helpful to get us in the right mindset and yet nothing really changes until we get our butt into the gym with a trainer for personal or group sessions until it becomes a habit, a lifestyle, our new way of being.
We can only get so far on our own and then if you noticed any hero or heroine and history, it took a team, it took mentorship, it took Support, I took the magic that happens when two or more are gathered, so I honestly invite you to apply for a complimentary strategy session with me to discover if you’re a fit for me to invite you to work with me to heal this to the core, for one thing I do know, destructive patterns don’t change on their own, they only get worse, however I’ve seen miracle after miracle and so many of my clients are in soul-shaking conscious relationships, happier than I’ve ever been, having done the deep work to heal to the core 🙂 You can go to www.allanapratt.com/connect and apply for a complementary Strategy Session.
In the meantime enjoy my complementary training for men if you are a man 🙂 at www.gethertosayyes.com or my complementary training for women if you are a woman 🙂 at www.Allanapratt.com. Just reading my words will allow you to see that we are on the same page, it will make you feel seen and heard and acknowledged and open your heart to trust me. You will see that I walk my talk and that I care deeply and I always wish you a delicious life a full self expression and freedom 🙂
Looking forward to connecting, blessings, Allana xox
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