Have you ever found yourself in that heated moment that you’re getting closer and closer to your/his/her house and you’re not sure what to do?
At that moment, you may not know whether to say goodbye or have a drink in a private place with them. You know very well that you definitely don’t need that drink, because once you two are surrounded by four walls and a bed, everything is over… or just beginning!
Although the first time having sex is always sweet and passionate, many people are not sure if it’s the right thing to do. Society says that if you take it slow, you can enjoy it longer, and to be honest, you’ll appear less desperate for sex.
I dare to say that we should normalize sex on the first date, for many reasons.
Sex on the first date is exciting and passionate. You’ve just met a new person, and you probably felt good around them to bring the night to an end at your or their place. So now it’s time to seal the night with some sex. If you want it, do it. Enjoy it, and move on. There’s nothing to feel bad about it. If you weren’t into each other, you wouldn’t be on the same bed, touching each other’s bodies. In fact, maybe everything would have ended with your partner leaving the table or throwing their drink at you. So if you’ve made it this far, having good sex can be a way to celebrate.
But if you feel you’re on the bed with the wrong person, then my dear, it’s never too late to stop even if you’re one sneeze away!
Having sex on the first date opens up two partners to each other much more. You’ll find yourself knowing more about your partner. This is why many couples hesitate to have sex before they really know each other, because they don’t want to get too attached too soon. But they don’t have to if they see sex as just a part of the relationship, not the binding power of it.
See, a lot of people think that if they make their partner wait, they’ll make them stick around longer or appear harder to get. Yeah, they might, but only for the second reason. A real adult would never give you up if you’ve expressed your sexual desire earlier than they might have expected. They might instead find it comforting and very mature of you to express your desires. If you find yourself in the opposite situation, then you’re probably not in a mature relationship yet.
It’s so funny that it’s okay to masturbate thinking about our sexually distant partner, but it’s not okay to have actual sex with them! This seriously has to stop. There’s no need to put any other meaning than ‘pleasure’ behind our sexual encounters. As time passes and we feel more into our partner, we can feel more passionate about them, and that’s when sex can be a romantic, intimate move.
Now here’s my question, if you haven’t had sex in the first date, would you anticipate a more romantic or passionate one ahead? Would you be able to differentiate it from the early ones and reminisce about the differences?
Isn’t it romantic to compare how both of you have improved in sex together? That you know each other’s needs more than in the past?
Okay, let me answer these questions in a simple way. If you have sex on the first date, you get to enjoy all these moments above and if you don’t, these are the exact things you’ll miss!
And here’s the spoiler alert:
YOU ARE NOT MEANT TO EXPERIENCE THESE ANY OTHER WAY!
What I mean is, sometimes you have to risk things a little bit. I like naughty couples for this particular reason, they experience each other inside out. There is nothing they don’t know about each other and guess what, they get to discover their loved ones the most when they’ve been intimate from the scratch!
I think it’s something about being naked that makes your soul naked as well. To me nothing feels as great as a multi-dimensional bond with my partner that will elevate into sex. Isn’t that more amazing than stressfully planned sex that will only serve the purpose of physical intimacy?
We all deserve this!
And that’s why First Date Sex is mandatory!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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