People love to hear their name.
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This comment was by Bob Rader on the post Why You Should Never Say “I Love You Too.”
I think many of you are missing the point. It’s the substitution of “too” for the person’s name that is offensive because it depersonalizes and cheapens the love being exchanged. “I love you, too, Harry” would be fine. Of course, that assumes that the initial statement is “I love you, Mary.”
It is an act of love and respect to remember and use a person’s name whenever appropriate, whether or not love is involved. For example, it is a breach of manners to refer to a person present in a group as “he” or “she.” Even between just two persons, the use of the other person’s name conveys affection, caring or friendship , depending on the relationship. Two men on the golf course: “Great shot, Harry” is better than “Great shot.”
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