In the 21st century, there are plenty of issues challenging men and their roles within a modern. We all face a unique set of problems in our lives.
One key problem is the approach within the legal system and social attitudes directed towards fathers. Activist groups like ‘Fathers 4 Justice’ campaign for equal custody rights, and many others dispell the damaging stereotypes of fathers being flighty, unreliable, irresponsible and even more inclined towards being abusive. These stereotypes are redundant and damaging to society as a whole.
Unfair Legal Situation
There are still many divorce proceedings where the mother will receive custody of the children and crippling monetary support from the father with almost zero debate or fair discussion and analysis.
I’m not saying women don’t make great parents but society’s attitude that they are relentlessly superior to men, regardless of their own personal problems or nuances needs to stop. In custody battles, there are plenty of cases of women suffering from alcoholism or drug problems, and the statistics of abusive mothers are staggering. To set the system up in a way that automatically gives mothers custody hurts children and their fathers. No fair society should allow for a legal system that makes sweeping decisions as child custody to be based on outdated and obsolete stereotypes.
What? You Were Raised by a Single Father?
That shouldn’t still seem a weird concept to people. The single father family is not a common thing, and a lot of people still think that mothers do a better job of raising kids. Plenty of people just don’t expect men to be great single parents, and that stereotype isn’t just damaging to men, it’s the flipside of misogyny.
To make out men simply aren’t made to be parents, and to cast them as simple providers, is to also say all women are housewives and carers. That attitude doesn’t belong in the 21st century. That’s not even mentioning the simple hardships of being a single father.
Societal Pressures for a Man’s Career May be Part of the Problem.
In a work and career-centric nation like the United States, where everyone, male and female, strives to have a fulfilling, high-achieving and intense career, falling into that single parent role can be hard to achieve while still maintaining that career.
This is especially true if you’re trying to train and grow into new roles and capacities. Doing that extra work and training in your evening can very prove difficult. For many of us, the ultimate solution for growing your career, while performing that vital role of parent and caregiver, comes in the form of remote training and work.
Working as an online freelancer, or doing your training online can allow you to still perform a physical job to pay the bills, and easily train and learn new skills, or even earn your living online entirely. Courses like the online MSW (Master of Social Work), among others, allow you to develop skills and abilities, while still being there for your kids.
If you can dedicate a couple of hours every evening, and don’t have to physically attend a college, then you can learn while still looking after your kids, allowing you to be both the career-driven, provider that society tells you should be, all while being the caring, loving parent you want and need to be.
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