Igor Kufayev reminds us that whatever we seek out there, is already within us.
We all want a soulmate, or what some would call “a match made in heaven.”
Yet all soul mate love stories are but reflections of the classical myth of Psyche and Eros. The plot of beauty, terrifying prophecy, doubt, loss of trust, betrayal and all the trials to redeem lost love, is a poetic metaphor for soul’s ascension to its divine status as Love itself.
In the myth, Psyche stands for human soul and Eros represents that most primal, instinctual desire for Love—it is that split between soul and love that sets desire, and the ancient drama, in motion. Psyche goes through a despairing worldwide search to find her lost love. In that quest she is purified by passions and misfortunes, in order to find everlasting happiness and final reunion with her beloved.
The story of Psyche and Eros is where the ambiguity of being human is taken to its extremes–soul in its search for love confined to this body in a drama born of perceived separation from source. And yet it is here where Psyche is destined to traverse all terrains of purgation, including a descent to the underworld and back, with the reward of eventually drinking the ambrosia of gods.
The idea of a soulmate, as a being ‘out there’ is another myth originated in Ancient Greece, albeit diluted with time from its more profound meaning. The true meaning of a soulmate is based on bridging the gap deep within our own soul. For it is believed that the soul was split in half at the time of creation, which left us wandering in search of wholeness.
Thus Plato, in his dialogue, The Symposium, has Aristophanes present a story about the origins of a soulmate. Aristophanes states that humans originally had four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces, but Zeus feared their power and split them all in half, condemning them to spend their lives searching for the other half to complete them.
Coming back to our mundane-severely-deprived-of-mythic-beauty everyday reality, what’s in this story that can shake us to a sudden revelation relevant to our own happiness? Those who are trying to find ‘the other half’ outside are chasing their own shadow, for the other half is already here right inside of your own being.
Once that is recognized, the heart opens up and learns to love unconditionally. Moreover, when the soul joins its other half within it gains the wisdom in equanimity of seeing and accepting all relationships as they are.
After all, those who have expanded the inner horizons of their psyche are better fit in dealing with the grit of everydayness with which all romances and love-stories are faced eventually.
No matter how romantic it seems, to have another person responsible for our happiness is a delusion, a kind of diplopia. For Love is not a chance but a reality of our existence. When we find Love within, the chance of reflecting that love in all our relationships, let alone most intimate one, becomes spontaneous reality of our daily life.
Love has many facets, many pathways of expression. As the ray of light is colored when it passes through a precious gem, cut to perfection, so is a cultured heart gives love its unique hue of spectrum. Yet in its essence love is self-effulgent light that gives the human heart its full capacity to experience all shades of life.
All relationships we form through life are causal and up until we recognize that, we will be bound to the same circle of experiences, repeating itself over and over. When the story of Psyche is recognized as our soul’s awakening, purgation and ultimate union with love, we no longer hold others accountable for our own happiness.
For it is here, where Eros is united with his beloved – as your soul in disguise – in the most intimate chamber of your heart. From here love itself springs as desire, it flows down in streams of individual love through all terrains of life, only to find its way back at the point of confluence to merge as love infinite.
Given that, what if a soulmate is the refection of your psyche’s desire to find fulfillment, and the one who helps you up the ladder of your own evolution? Whence there are many forms to that relationship. One could have one’s own friend or foe, mother or child, as a soulmate to lead through the dark terrains of the psyche to fulfill the destiny, and of course that purpose could be found through the most intimate of all relationships.
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