Stressing out over last-minute shopping? Losing your cool inside to outside conditions? Joe Rutland puts forth an idea that might help bring balance to it all.
Getting out of my own way, especially during the Christmas and New Year’s holidays, can be kind of like a drunken sailor stumbling around trying to find his balance.
Well, I can say that I’ve been in that drunken sailor’s shoes before … a long time ago … but what does it really mean to be of “good cheer” during the holidays?
Not everyone will enjoy these next few days. They will be excruciating. In fact, to be honest, some people will not be reading anything online after Jan. 1. Why? Because they have killed themselves. It’s a stark reality that some people get so distraught at this time of year that they feel life’s pains and struggles so strongly they end their lives.
I am not writing this to be a total downer, but the holidays can be a time where old scars, wounds and memories of misfortunes and heartbreaks pour into a human soul and crush him or her like a Godzilla stomp.
Everyone is looking here, there and everywhere for some ease and sanity in their lives. I do it. I’ll admit it right here. I will search the world for anything that will not allow me to look inside and find out what is going on and why I am reacting, instead of responding, to certain situations.
Why does this happen?
Because looking outside of myself, for me, has let me avoid doing the soul work that I am faced and called to do. Many men and women desire a holiday season filled with ease and sanity. Think about those words for a while. Maybe meditate on them. Ease. Sanity. I strive to feel that happiness which can always be present, so why can’t we simply strive for another level of happiness that no one can deny?
It really is that simple and complicated.
I’ve not been an angel during the season of angelic hosts. My sense is that all of us, at one time, have gone astray from our core beliefs at holiday time.
Hell, some of us many not even know what our core beliefs are around life, family, friends, finances, and communication. It seems rather odd that the hubbub of getting Christmas gifts at the last minute would take the place of focusing on what matters most and lasts longer … love, hope, faith, courage, and commitment.
All these can make up … wait for it … a wonderful life. (Pun intended!) It always is there for me to see.
What if “ease and sanity” was the collective mantra for a huge swath of people right now?
Ease and sanity are equally important to deliver in big doses for those in need. Some people may go to homeless shelters and feed the poor; others might give out special gifts to strangers on the street; and some may simply be able to offer a smile and warm hug as their gift.
The tendency is to simply not want ease and sanity. Just stick with the familiar friends of chaos, anxiety, fear, capitulation … add your own words here.
The bottom line is that not allowing space for love and light to enter in during this season filled with love and light denies me a basic human birthright: my right to feel happy. Notice that I did not write “be happiness.” Being happy is wonderful, I’ll agree, and it can take someone from “being” into “feeling” if they can’t get to the mother lode immediately.
Let me offer a couple of suggestions around going easy and finding sanity right now.
First, discover the gentleness within yourself and embrace it. Yeah, I know, we all are “tough people” and don’t know what being gentle is all about. Bull. Every human being does have an element of gentleness within their hearts. Embellish it. Let it grow. Yes, despite the world’s troubles, individually I do believe we all have a source of gentleness within us.
Second, be cognizant that everyone is doing their best in life. Some are getting along splendidly; others, not so good. Yet we ALL are doing our best. So here comes this little squeaky voice inside me right now yelling, “That’s a crock! That’s a crock!” It might be, yet I know that I’m doing my best to live, love and play the melody each day and I trust you are, too.
“Ease and sanity” can be a great concept to hold onto for everyone right now. Look what happened when George Bailey found some of it in his life.
Never forget, my friends. No matter where you are when you read this, every minute counts … and you are loved.
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