“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” –Ernest Hemingway
Confessions of The Underdog and Thriving Survivor sets the idea for utilizing our neutral, positive, and negative experiences. Now, in order to experience, learn, and move forward towards continuous success, we must learn from the lessons of each neutral, positive, and negative experience by observing the obstacles through insightful perspectives.
Experiences aren’t everything. Perception matters more. So, be open-minded by expanding your horizons!
The more challenging the obstacle, the sweeter the victory!
Choose to see the good in every situation. Take the negative and make it a positive.
Part of my objective for The Moral Compass of Attraction and Social Adaptation is to have available emotional awareness, social intelligence, and relationship coaching services to share the similarities and differences in my experiences. People can know they aren’t alone and social change is very much possible. In fact, anything and everything is possible because miracles have been accomplished historically and contemporarily. For example, in the past, humanity couldn’t go to space, now astronauts can!
There’s much significance in talking about pessimistic and conflicting issues rather than being totally optimistic. Total optimism can lead to laziness and false hope. I firmly believe there needs to be a balance between the forces of being a pessimist, an optimist, a realist, or an opportunist.
- As a pessimist, access and make evaluations for improvement.
- As an optimist, see and cultivate the good in everybody and in every situation including the humorous and valuable. Have faith in every external factor that comes forward (conflicts).
- As a realist, take things seriously and concentrate.
- As an opportunist, achieve the right things continuously for the right reasons at the right place at the right time. Thus, being an authentic transformational and influential leader.
Self-Reflection. Ask questions:
- Who am I?
- What are my beliefs and values?
- Why am I doing what I’m doing?
- How am I doing things?
- What are my motivations?
- Where did my incentives for achieving goals and objectives originate from?
Meditation: Empty outside thoughts of absurdity-embrace stillness.
Through the journey of developing and evolving your higher transformational self, you must continuously practice the consciousness of self (self-awareness, inner strength, inner peace, and internal courage) rather than being self-conscious (insecurities).
Seek and have mentors with diverse creditability and backgrounds as your advisory committee to gain unconventional wisdom from those more experienced, and those with the ability to see things from different perspectives.
- Discuss your inner and outer conflicts with a creditable therapist or counselor.
- Utilize Sigmund Freud’s talking cure (also known as venting or ranting) to let your feelings and emotions out.
- Surround yourself with good and mature people that help make you continuously evolve.
Take advantage of stress-relieving hobbies or passions:
- Martial arts
- Listen to music
- Play a musical instrument
- Talk to close friends and family
If you really want to socially evolve, talk to people of different and diverse backgrounds that vary from one’s own settings.
Practice personal growth, development, and leadership for social change in multiple ways rather than being ethnocentric.
Go out there, make the difference in your own life and the lives of others!
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