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Many men come to me in pain, wrestling with ideas about how they’re supposed to be.
They tell me they are not living up to these ideas and think this is the cause of having less success or loving relationships.
Men tell me they think they should be strong, powerful, competent, productive, assertive…all the stereotypical qualities they’ve heard will make them a better man!
Today’s Man Alive podcast guest is a man who discovered, to put it bluntly, that those ideas are a bunch of B.S.!
Sam McAfee is a 20 year veteran of Silicon Valley developing better technology leaders, high-performing product development teams, and strengthening organizations. He has worked with well-known companies including Adobe, Teach for America, Anthem, PG&E, and Blackstone!
Over his career, he has realized that the more vulnerable and transparent he has become, the more impactful his work is and the easier it goes!
The idea that you could somehow be perfect, or that competence and confidence is your path to success or happiness — these are myths.
In this Man Alive conversation we discussed what can take the place of these myths, as well as:
- How fear impacts performance and collaboration
- The benefits for teams who take on a growth mindset, rather than a fixed mindset
- Becoming a better leader by bringing awareness to your personal scripts, patterns, and archetypes
- The trap of perfectionism that drains vitality, often without you even realizing it
- How to take the risk to shift from comfort (Your Zone of Excellence) to the unknown (Your Zone of Genius)
As someone who has worked in tech for 20 years, Sam affirms the need for connection and putting people first, even in business. You’ll find more freedom for yourself as you hear his personal stories and struggles.
Even men at the top of their game find themselves wanting more from life. Man Alive is the resource for men who want more meaning, a bigger impact, unshakable confidence, a hotter sex life, more money, deeper love, solid friendships or a powerful legacy.
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A version of this post was originally posted on ShanaJamesCoaching.com and is republished here with permission from the author.
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