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What can men do to eliminate workplace bullying?
- How can a man help the bully see what they are doing and stop the abusive behaviors?
- When does a bully gain awareness and change their own behaviors?
Have you been bullied as an adult?
The societal expectations of men to behave in certain ways and achieve conventional measures of success can be overwhelming and exhausting. Do these expectations push some men to become bullies? What of the victims of bullying: how are they impacted?
What are the physiological health consequences? Psychological? How about socio-economic consequences of bullying?
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Yes. My being bullied was by a female director. She knew that as a male, I was in a weaker position, given her position. All other times, which were few, were by males, that I could go head to head with, and didn’t concern me a bit. But against her, I was screwed. Welcome to toxic femininity. I kept my job. But mainly because I’m good at what I do, I had friends, both male and female, in higher than her places. And ultimately she was pushed out. With accolades to her service for sure. Lol! But out nonetheless. But… Read more »
Are these the actual men who have been bullied or actors reciting specific incidents.
We’re really men. It’s offensive for you to question, as if we’re trolls on the GMP.
I guess comments questioning people’s experiences are okay around here as long as they only questions men’s experiences.
I have been bullied by female managers and minority workers and managers of both sexes
Interestingly, I’ve only been bullied by female managers.
I have been bullying by both female managers and female co-workers.
Bullying can take many forms. I graduated from CSU Sonoma as a Nurse Practitioner and was awarded a Masters in Health Services degree from UC Davis. I have managed a full spectrum of clinical programs, provided clinical and emergency services for over 30 years, trained as an epidemiologist, taught and supervised other health care providers and support personnel, played a leadership role in my professional organizations, had oversight responsibilities for clinical and emergency medical services throughout the State, wrote policies, procedures and protocols for two departments, developed a comprehensive medical services program for a Department in the State and conducted… Read more »
A boss of mine introduced me to a new employee. She told him him that there were two people you didn’t want to p*ss off, the president and John and if you absolutely had to p*ss one of them off, don’t pick John. I’ve been bullied at jobs before and my response has been epic. I won’t get into all the details, but in one instance, I had the bully arrested for assault. He ended up being convicted too. He was a director who bullied everyone in part because the company protected the managers. My boss warned me they’d be… Read more »
Thanks for sharing, John. It’s amazing that this kind of behavior goes on in a “professional” space we believe should be held to a higher standard. I have seen it for women, mostly with sexual harassment by men, but I had never heard of it happening to men. I now realize that is because men who have survived these kinds of violations didn’t feel safe speaking up.
The trouble Ms. Blacker is that bosses have been given a free rein to what they can do to the workers aided and abetted by the USA government. It is a social and cultural attitude that has been going on far too long. The United States has one of the worst records in the world when it comes to protecting people at work.
There’s merit in that, to some degree. The fact that one has risen to this position is a question to some that they must be good folks. False assumptions in my opinion. But it’s not systemic, as more of belief system.
It is systemic; otherwise, the USA would not have having problems with its management for the last 37 years.
I now realize that is because men who have survived these kinds of violations didn’t feel safe speaking up. They don’t feel safe speaking up for many of the same reasons women don’t feel safe speaking up PLUS the expectations of being a provider. Men are expected to be the one that works outside the home to provide for his family. That means a man’s job/career are important to him and bosses know this and will take advantage of it. Between not being believed because they are men, not being believed because they are employees, and knowing that their career… Read more »