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Online dating sites and apps come in all shapes and sizes these days. Some are designed to pull information from your Facebook profile making creating a profile quick and easy. Others bombard you with questions, checkboxes and an array of forms to fill out. This can be daunting and overkill but it can also lead to more work and effort than is needed to effectively describe yourself to possible suitors. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should is the saying that couldn’t be truer when filling out your profile.
Most sites and apps require at least 1 photo for your profile while most limit photos to six photos, there some sites that have no upper limit. When it comes to photos, unfortunately, this saying is true: You are only as attractive as your worst photo. This is not meant to paint a dreadful or pessimistic view of online dating, it is meant to remind people to keep things simple. It is hard to believe that photo #7 doesn’t already communicate and confirm how you look or what you like to do in photos #1-#6.
When reviewing profiles of people who uploaded more than 6 photos, most users either uploaded repetitive photos, less than flattering photos or photos that lacked to communicate or reveal something new about themselves. Every photo on an online dating profile should reveal what you like to do or how you look like. Think about it – does selfie #2 reveal anything different or new than selfie #1? Chances are no other than you like to take selfies which could lead to some unwanted assumptions about yourself, your social circle or self-confidence.
Online dating profiles are meant to offer a glimpse of who you are, what you like and what you are about. They are not meant to be a complete life story about yours. Online dating sites are where you meet people – they are not where you date. That happens offline. Leave some something up to the imagination – leave something to talk about on your date. Do not be shy on your online dating profile but at the same time do not overshare. When in doubt ask a friend for advice or consult with an online dating coach.
For additional tips on photos to use and which to avoid, read this post from author.
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