We need to have that debate again, should men be allowed to say the phrase, “we are pregnant” or instead men should say, “we are having a baby” or “my wife is pregnant?”
The whole Adam Levine cheating scandal while his wife is very much pregnant makes a great case for what Mila Kunis said years ago when she like Adam Levine’s wife was pregnant with her baby with Ashton Kutcher.
It was during her guesting on Jimmy Kimmel Live! when she corrected Jimmy Kimmel when he said, “we are pregnant” meaning he and his wife were expecting a baby. What followed next took the audience by surprise, Mila Kunis took off her body mic, got up, and did a hilarious spiel about why men should stop saying,
We are pregnant!
“Hello, I’m Mila Kunis, with a very special message for all you soon-to-be fathers,” she said to the camera. “Stop saying, ‘We’re pregnant.’ You’re not pregnant!
Do you have to squeeze a watermelon-sized person out of your lady-hole? No.
Are you crying alone in your car listening to a stupid Bette Midler song? No.
When you wake up and throw up, is it because you’re nurturing a human life? No.
It’s because you had too many shots of tequila. Do you know how many shots of tequila we had? None. Because we can’t have shots of tequila. We can’t have anything, because we’ve got your little love goblin growing inside of us. All you did was roll over and fall asleep.”
Mila wrapped up her speech by saying, “You’re not pregnant.” Then eight expecting, ice cream-toting women appeared beside her onstage to say, “We are!”
Adam Levine cheating scandal
It isn’t the first time a male celebrity had affairs, nor will it be the last time. Infidelity in marriage doesn’t only happen in celebrity marriages, or the Royals, it happens all the time to ordinary people.
And not only it happens, but many men have also cheated while their wives were pregnant.
And like with pregnancies, cheating can happen multiple times, take the case of Khloe Kardashian, and her cheating husband Tristan Thompson who cheated on her while she was pregnant with their daughter True.
Tristan allegedly was also cheating on a pregnant ex when he first started dating Khloe, and that was in 2018. Four years later Khloe found out he fathered a baby while she was about to give birth to their second child.
Of course, with anything with the Kardashians, every detail will be shared on their TV show which will have its season 2.
Why do men cheat while their wives are pregnant?
Fears. Some men say they fear what happens next when their child is born.
Will they become a second-class citizen inside their home, or will there be little or no sex with their wives?
Some are just born cheaters and cheating on their pregnant wife is an afterthought, take the case of Anthony Weiner who gambled away everything just so he can send his d*ck pictures to women. One was an underage girl that got himself into prison, and after serving 18 months he had to register as a sex offender.
Was it all worth it, only Weiner knows what is inside his head.
Weiner is a serial cheater and that scandal may have contributed to Hillary Clinton’s presidential loss because his wife happened to be the vice chair of Hillary Clinton’s 2016 campaign.
FitPregnancy.com notes that affairs during pregnancy are not uncommon.
“You’re not likely to hear about it, especially during the pregnancy, but it’s probably more common than people suspect,” says Dr. Scott Haltzman, author of “The Secrets of Happily Married Women.”
Why? Apparently, the guys just want to feel special: “For many men, engaging in sex is a form of emotional closeness.
When their partners push them away, they feel rejected not just sexually, but also emotionally,” Haltzman said — and many are apprehensive that their partner will “choose the child” over them after it is born. — Excerpt, Why do men cheat on their pregnant wives?
Infidelity in marriage, the likelihood of it happening is very real. But when it happens during pregnancy, it doubles the pain.
Being pregnant while many think is cute, or a couple’s thing they can post on social media is a difficult journey for any woman — at any age and any stage of their life.
So, while, fear may be real, having a conversation with their wives may help these men navigate through their feelings. Cheating when finally exposed will only hurt your wife, and there is a chance your marriage will not survive.
I’m not sure if Adam Levine ever used the phrase, “We are pregnant!”
It is his third child with former Victoria’s Secret model Behati Prinsloo.
But telling your alleged lover if you can name your child after her is not an innocent flirtatious comment as Adam Levine tries to make a case for his cheating.
He has to come to terms with it, he was caught cheating even if he claims there was no sex involved.
He needs to call it as it is for the healing from the scandal to begin its course otherwise we can take a cue from his hit song and change the lyrics to — it’s the men like you that make it hard for pregnant women to accept the phrase,
We are pregnant!
Thank you for reading.
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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