I love her, but I need some SPACE! Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert knows how to tell her what you require, WITHOUT hurting her feelings…
Question: I’m starting to feel smothered by my lady. I love her, but sometimes I feel like I need some space to myself or to be with the guys. How do I tell her that without hurting her feelings?
Answer: I totally get it. Everybody needs ME time and FRIEND time. In fact I believe it’s healthy for relationships to create this kind of balance.
One of the pitfalls we stumble into is during the honeymoon stage, we are so intoxicated with our partner, that we don’t even notice that we haven’t meditated in a while, haven’t hit the gym as much, haven’t hung out with friends, haven’t been ALONE to just BE in a while….
Once the honeymoon phase is over, then we’ve set up unrealistic expectations to spend most every waking minute, most every weekend together… and asking for space seems AGAINST them instead of FOR us and and FOR the relationship.
Not to worry… life isn’t about being perfect, it’s about growing and experiencing… and so what a wonderful time to sit down and have a totally easy cool conversation about how to take your great relationship to glorious.
Notice I didn’t focus on the problem here? If you focus on what’s wrong, if you walk on eggshells not wanting to hurt her… then she SMELLS the issue, she’ll freak out or at least get scared.
Instead… watch this video and see another point of view to take to create the space you require which will make your relationship even stronger.
And given relationships ARE meant to be catalysts for our growth, if asking for what you require is an area in need of improvement… this might mean there’s a longer standing issue at play regarding fear of rejection, needing approval, not feeling worthy of creating a life that works for you… in which case a fabulous resource to heal those inner game challenges would be my complementary www.GetHerToSayYes.com report and video series.
We’re wired since youth to react not respond… and as we mature, it’s possible to literally rewire our brains and heal our emasculated hearts so we can have the hot healthy intimate long term partnerships we desire… that’s the work I have the privilege of doing with amazing men around the world from 22 to 75 😉
You CAN have a fabulous relationship, wonderful friendships AND nourishing downtime. Kings have a potent team of advisors, for efficient results.
Let me know how the conversation goes, huge love, deliciously, Allana xoxo
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