His wife gushes about another man… ALL THE TIME. Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert, doesn’t think it’s all in his head…
Question: My wife is in love with another man and doesn’t even know it! Any time she talks about him (which is all the time) she gushes and gets so excited. She blushed if I tease her about it and says it’s all in my head and I am just jealous. What do I do?
Answer: Love I have to be honest… that’s what fierce love would do, yes? It seems your question is at the level of reaction, of effect… not a question that’s grounded or pointing to the cause of what’s going on. I get that her behavior is unkind for SURE! And yet your question seems tit for tat, and dramatic rather than a deep profound inquiry into what the hell happened to cause this in the first place?
How about… What did I do, or didn’t do, that led to this situation? Where did I cop the ball, takes her for granted? Where did I not speak my truth and saw this coming years ago? Where am I not taking charge of my marriage in a way that cultivates such a strong foundation and openness of communication that we could talk about what’s REALLY going on under the surface?
It seems it’s not about this guy… it seems it’s about what’s missing in your relationship. It seems like two wounded parts of your souls rubbing up against one another desiring to feel enough, feel wanted, feel safe, feel home.
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Just like when someone says, Why am I so fat? That’s so strewn with judgment that we don’t get anywhere. Yet if they ask, What would it take for me to have a healthy lean body that feels great? THEN the path appears, yes?
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Great love, Allana
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