Territorial Testosterone Tornado’s His Wounded Heart, Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt to the rescue…
Question: How to handle it??? The Moment my ex’s BF shows up to watch MY daughter play her softball game… Should I invite him to the restroom so I can use his head as a toilet brush? Advise???
Answer: OMG love… I totally get it! Like the time my ex’s girlfriend wanted to plan our son’s BDay party. Upside the head!
First, you have EVERY right to be pissed, get your feathers ruffled as this dude steps foot on your daughter’s softball game. And yet notice how quickly you’ve given him your power… what do I mean?
Anyone who has the capacity to take us off center, we just gave our power away to them. They are a circumstance we’ve allowed to be bigger than us. We’ve lost our conscious state of being where we allow all and judge nothing.
I know, that’s so boring compared to using his head as a toilet brush… yet let’s go deeper. Your daughter looks to you to be her stable rock, who doesn’t get miffed by the crowd, so she feels safe, seen and capable of concentrating on her game. If you can’t stay calm in the face of distraction, how can you teach her how?
And love, can you imagine how hard it is already for her heart to be torn between you, mom and now mom’s BF… she may already feel uneasy… so to know you are not thrown off… helps her to be at peace.
Take out your validated frustration on a boxing punching bag, or go clean the yard (or come over and clean mine 😉 xoxo) yet don’t let it eat you up inside. Feel you feelings and let them go. Don’t let another’s actions determine your happiness. You’re bigger than this… and as soon as they sense they can’t get your goat… they’ll 1. not matter to you and 2. probably will stop any shenanigans they’re doing to piss you off.
Or hire a hot model to bring to the next game. Did I say that out loud? Many times I thought about hiring two hot ex navy seals to attend events with me when my ex was at his all time high… never did it, but it felt good to know I COULD if I wanted to 😉
I”m sure you have already but just in case, download my complementary report which by the time this posts MAY even be my updated How To Be A Noble Badass Intro Training… regardless it’s great content to help you stay centered, grounded and impermeable to icky circumstances. www.GetHerToSayYes.com
And if this is a gift to show you that you still have some healing to do about your divorce, which I sense it is… reach out to my [email protected] Subj line: GMP sent me (toilet bowl) and let me offer you a complementary Strategy Session. Handle the deep stuff now, for your sake, your daughter’s sake and for the health of your next relationship. Huge love, Allana xoox