If you’re reading my post, then you must have recently had a breakup and now you want to have your ex back. Am I right? A breakup is one of the worst things you’ll ever deal with, especially when you are still alone and want someone to come to your life as soon as possible.
There’re various reasons why a relationship ends.
Maybe, you were not happy with the way your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend was dealing you with. Or maybe, they were possessive and didn’t allow you to speak to anyone else. Whatsoever the reason is; you’ll now have to go through a wide range of emotions such as sadness, loneliness, confusion, despair or restlessness.
What should you do if you still love your ex and want him or her back? Well, you can try the following things.
Get Some Space
One of the best and most important things you can do is getting some space.
This means you’ll have to separate yourself from the ex and go away for some time, no matter how badly you miss their company. You might think that it’s not a good idea; but trust me, this piece of advice makes a lot of sense. Once you feel angry, devastated, confused or sad, it is always good to give yourself and the ex some space so that both of you can think what’s next.
At the same time, you should keep an eye on your ex to ensure that they don’t get another boyfriend or girlfriend. You can be polite to them if two of you study in the same class or are cousins.
Don’t Harass Your Ex
It is a common observation that some people keep harassing their ex in one way or the other. If you’re doing this, you will never get them back.
A good idea is to make them feel safe, protected and loved even when you’re not around.
Stop harassing or confusing them with idiotic social media or WhatsApp messages!
However, this doesn’t mean that you have to give up the hope of rekindling the relationship. What matters is how you treat the ex and how you make them feel. If your behavior is nice and you’re not teasing them in any way, they will be urged to come back to you.
Know Why Things Ended
Last but not least, you should be aware of what is the reason for the breakup.
Some people don’t even know why they have lost their beloveds, and this not only confuses them but also depresses them in the long run.
You can solve the problem by evaluating the overall situation. If it was your mistake, then you should go to your ex and say sorry. And if they were wrong, then you should wait for them to come to you to admit their mistake.
Knowing how to contact your ex after a breakup is tricky, but you can get them back by improving your personality and behavior.
For example, you can send your ex casual texts once a while and see if they miss you and reply back or not. If there is hope, then you should necessary steps to bring the ex back to your life. It will require some time, but the results will surely be favorable.
Have you ever been in love with somebody? Do you want them back?
A version of this post was previously published on Medium and is republished here with permission from the author.
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