Forced Into Silence, a documentary in progress, is presenting the first clip that starts the conversation about the abuse of men.
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This is the first clip from La Shawn Pagán, a journalist and documentary filmmaker that has been previously featured in The Good Men Project because of her innovative documentary Forced into Silence – which focuses of male victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.
Trigger Warning. This video deals with the topic of rape.
To learn more about Forced into Silence you can visit her blog that features articles about men victims of domestic violence and sexual assault, information on how to detect an abusive relationship, and links to websites that cater to men in these situations. If you’d like to find out how you can help the cause, check out the fund raising page at: GoFundMe.com/ForcedintoSilence.
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I’d like to thank everyone for posting your comments on this article. in response to Erin’s sub-comment via Bill – I’d like to note that the documentary is going to take a look at all forms of abuse towards men. However, I feel the most shockingly ignored aspect of it all is the abuse women perpetrate toward males. Therefore, it’s one of the first points I put forth. I hope to see you join me in a google+ hangout with Dr. Vibe that’s soon to come where I will be available to answer as many questions about this project to… Read more »
Why do you believe that abuse of women against men is more shockingly ignored then abuse of men against other men? Is that all forms of abuse or just sexual abuse? I don’t know tons about the topic but it seems to me that men would be even less willing to talk about abuse, especially sexual, at the hands of other men?
Let me be clear, I am interested in learning more about violence against men from women too. I just never really hear much of anything about abuse among men, especially sexual.
However, I feel the most shockingly ignored aspect of it all is the abuse women perpetrate toward males. i agree with you. when most people think of male being raped. they instantly think of a male penetrating another male, or perhaps a female using an implement on a male. they wouldnt think of a male being forced to penetrate a female, or a male. and when they do, there is often confusion and derision. it is not recognised and is viewed thru a nudgenudge winkwink ‘bawdy seaside postcard’ lens. i think of the comedic tone in the comments to this… Read more »
For solid ongoing coverage of this problem (which includes emotional abuse of men by women as well as physical/sexual abuse), go to the web site “A Voice For Men”.
http://www.avoiceformen.com/
Particularly, you want to listen to the contributions of Erin Pizzey, founder of the domestic violence shelter movement in Great Britain, and Dr. Tara Palmentieri, a clinical psychologist who specializes in serving the needs of men who have been suffering abuse at the hands of women.
What about abuse of men by other men? How does this factor into the conversation as well? Are men even less willing to talk about sexual abuse from other men then they are of women? I think this is a really great project and I’m glad that men are gaining a larger voice in their experiences. I think seeing men’s personal stories about what domestic violence and rape looks like for men will help give us a better understanding of the problem. I actually think hearing men’s personal stories is more impactful then statistics which pretty much everyone, no matter… Read more »
@ Erin “What about abuse of men by other men? How does this factor into the conversation as well? Are men even less willing to talk about sexual abuse from other men then they are of women?” I think a large part of that is that most of the sexual abuse of men outside of prison is perpetrated by women. 80% if you look at the CDC, but some studies place the number at 95%. More men have an experience with female perpetrated sexual abuse so you might hear more men talk about it. There is also IMO a knee… Read more »
Yes, I agree that more men probably have more experience with female perpetrated sexual abuse due to the sheer fact that heterosexual relationships outnumber homosexual ones. I am curious if abuse statistics are broken down by social economic class and race among women who perpetuate abuse. I still have questions regarding both male on male abuse and female on male abuse. Especially because of the role male on male abuse has played in the Catholic Church and modern sport programs. Seemingly two industries that claim high privilage and ethical treatment of it’s people. I wonder how the abuse of young… Read more »
Am I mistaken? It appears that the stats on female to male assault (sexual or otherwise) in finally showing more realistic numbers = to those of male to female?
First than anything, I would like to say I love this page, is the first place, at least that i know, where men can be men, just like we are, just humans that feel, learn and make mistakes… This video is amazing, we usually think that rape is only from a man to a woman, but is not, obviusly, we gotta reconceptualize equality betwen genders… From Mexico, a big embrace to everybody who made this page possible