About this comic:
I’ve often gotten the criticism that I unfairly portray straight men. But by my count only one of my comics on The Good Men Project actually singles out heterosexual behavior. But there’s this idea that you can “spot” a queer person just by looking at them, and while it’s true that some queer folk broadcast their lifestyle (just like how some wear football jerseys 24/7), many don’t.
My point is this, we have to stop immediately assuming that men (or people in general, really) are straight by default. What good does it do us? When we make these assumptions we are twice as likely to accidentally insult the people around us. Even if you knew everyone in the room is straight, you don’t know if they have family, friends, or children that identify as queer.
Sadly there are communities where it does matter whether you’re straight or not, but they’re shrinking. So get with the times and just assume people deserve to be treated equally.
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the men in that drawing that are gay are the ones who feel sexually attracted to other men
It’s a trick question Sara, they’re all bisexual.
Very good point. Assuming like that is unfair.
But, realistically, it’s fair to talk about probabilities. It’s safe to say that without any specific information at all, a randomly chosen guy will likely be straight, with somewhere around a 90% chance.
No, we should not assume every man is hetero, but it’s okay to think there’s a great likelihood that he is. Just don’t think you will ever know just by looking (if it even matters, of course).
There are different kinds of generalizations. Some are fairer than others.
This is false. There are some people who you could look at (just the face) and without a shadow of a doubt know that they are gay. It’s a certain facial shape and especially in the mouth region. I have been 100% accurate in the last 10 years of noticing. However, I don’t remember what it is that I can verbalize and type. I know it when I see it. I don’t care if they’re gay, straight or trans so I never bothered sharing this or telling people. I do like pointing it out to my gay friends when we… Read more »
I have to disagree with what the dude says. I am a heterosexual man and I have had many gay men think that I am gay. Mostly in my younger years but it still happens today in my 50s I believe gay men look at men they would like to believe are interested in them and classify them as gay.