She Cheated But You Sill Love Her. Here’s What to Do

She cheated on me, but I still love her.

I’m pretty drunk right now, so please forgive any typos.

I was cheated on by my 31-year-old girlfriend of 5 and half years. She said she was staying with a friend when she left a few days ago. She then claimed to be at her mother’s house. I found out that she called United Airlines baggage.

I tried to put it behind me last night when she came home, but it was killing me, so I confronted her this morning. She acknowledged that she is in a relationship with an old boyfriend who is promising her the world.

Asserts that she is unsure of what she wants, she usually gets angry any time I tells her how I feel about it. I adore her. in a way that most people can’t even begin to comprehend. She is my life, my soul, and my heart.

This is even more difficult because of the past, but I believe we can work it out if she wants it as much as I do and does certain things. But I can’t handle losing her, so right now I’m so scared. She is the only person I have ever truly loved, and she is the most important person in my life.
I have no idea what to do. Despite my love for her, I’m currently a complete mess. Do you have any recommendations?

She left town to have an affair with an ex-boyfriend. I really need some advice on what to do.

-Anonymous.

What to Do.

It is evident that your girlfriend lacks empathy and care, and she may not be the ideal partner for you if she loses patience and tries to rush you to get over it every time you say you are hurting.

She is someone who wants to silence you so that she won’t be reminded of her immoral acts and won’t feel guilty about them.
Someone like that is only thinking about themselves. She doesn’t care that you’re fighting your own inner demons — and that those demons are a lot harder to deal with than her guilt.

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Because of this, you need to keep in mind that someone who cares about you will tell you and demonstrate her regret for cheating on you. She will not only apologize for it numerous times, but she will also validate you when you need it and assist you when you are experiencing emotional difficulties.

If she cares about you, she won’t get angry, ignore your feelings, or try to justify her cheating. That is only done by cheaters who are unaware of their actions. However, these people frequently cheat again and follow a destructive path.

You should talk to your partner about your feelings when you’re hurting in order to get over cheating. You should say that you’re hurting and want to know what’s going on.

The right partner will be open and honest about her cheating. She will be aware that you are seeking closure and that she must demonstrate that she is concerned about your suffering.

Remember that you only need to ask questions about cheating that help you process it. Don’t ask about anything sexual you don’t need to know or aren’t ready to learn. Because you don’t want to get hurt more, you should not ask about certain things.

Your objective ought to be to recover and comprehend what occurred.

You can always enroll in therapy or couples counseling if talking does not help. A mental health professional might inspire you and your partner to forgive one another and communicate more clearly.

One session with a therapist probably won’t change how you feel, but they will give you the tools to properly express yourself and encourage your partner to do the same.

Restoring trust is difficult but not impossible. As long as you are both willing to communicate and demonstrate that you are together for the right reasons, it can be done.

You probably already know how important it is to have good communication. But don’t forget that you’ll also need to get better at how you see each other, how to deal with difficult feelings and temptations, and how to solve problems and stay in love.

Before you start telling your girlfriend how happy you are to have her in your life, she will need to turn things around. She should be the person she should have been years ago, so you’ll want to make sure she’s doing everything she can to get your trust back.

What if you don’t want your girlfriend again who is having an affair?

You can tell your girlfriend you’re breaking up with her and that you don’t want to keep in touch if you’ve decided that she can’t be trusted or that you can’t forgive her.

This will show her that you need some alone time and that she made it impossible for you to trust her. Regardless of what you do, don’t specifically tell her that you need some time to figure things out.

Despite the fact that she has harmed you severely, you must avoid giving her false hope and implying that you will eventually reach out to her. Your ex-girlfriend or girlfriend needs to start going through the stages of breakup, accepting it, and working on herself.
She can do better in her next relationship and grow in the ways she needs to.
You don’t have to say or do much if you don’t want to be with a cheater. You just need to act maturely, refrain from making horrible accusations against her, and inform her that your decision to separate is final.

Put an end to things when you feel like the relationship is over to avoid too much misery.

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Do you still love your girlfriend, despite her cheating on you. What is it about her that you love so much that you can forgive her for cheating on you? Comment on the comment section below.

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I wish you the best of luck.

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