My wife says I pick fights for attention and then play the victim. Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert asks him to tell the truth…
Question: My wife thinks something is wrong with me and she may be right. She constantly accuses me of sabotaging my own happiness. She says I pick fights for attention and then play the victim. Is she right, am I missing something?
Answer: This type of behavior love, usually means there’s something deeper going on below the surface. There is an unmet need of attention, affection, safety, honor, fulfillment, sexual expression… SOMETHING that you are either unaware of… and your crankiness is a symptom of it… or you ARE aware of this unmet need, yet you are too scared, hesitant, doubtful you can have it… that you cut yourself off at the pass and just pick a fight, rather than truly sit in the fire, open your heart an have an intense yet fabulous conversation with your wife about what you really desire to create in your life, and with her.
So what is it that you really desire that you haven’t given yourself permission to KNOW or COMMUNICATE?
Instead of picking a fight, KNOW that, talk about that, be willing to do whatever it takes to HAVE that.
You’re not sure? Then what’s right about this is that you’re being invited to listen to your heart, take time to quiet your mind and listen to your Soul. What’s right about this is that if you DO know what’s off and you’re simply unsure of how to change things, then it’s time to expand your communication skills, time to fortify your courage, time to take some solid actions in the directions of your dreams and full self expression as a noble badass 😉
I can help with my complementary report and videos series www.GetHerToSayYes.com which helps you get out of your head, cure your ‘pick a fight’ guy and stand in your noble truth to communicate effectively with your wife.
If you’re still challenged, then deeper healing is the answer with the possibility of a series of coaching sessions to clean things out to the core, and let the ripple of evolution, growth and expansion permeate your life, marriage and future. Email my [email protected] to set up a strategy session to see if you’re a fit to work with me to shift this now, before these fights dissolve the very foundation of your marriage. You have the power to change this.
You’ve reached out in this question, now reach out in a strategy session and allow your glorious Soul to evolve to the next level of it’s grandeur. I have a coach too, in fact three coaches. No one can see their blindspots. Yet if you’re up to a big life, leaving no stone unturned, advisors will help you get there with elegance and power, creating the freedom and joy that is your birthright.
Huge blessings, Allana