Is 13 lovers too many? Not enough? Should you even date her? Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt reminds us that our Perceptions create our Reality…
Question: I met this woman and we hit it off. I have a rule that I like to know your sexual history before we get intimate. Well she shared – boy did she share – 13 guys! While I (believe) I kept my reaction to a minimum, I just don’t know if I want to go anywhere with this. Am I overreacting?
Answer: I love that you have values and guidelines for your self before you get intimate.
It sounds like this woman enjoys sex and has had 13 lovers… Be honest, how does that make you feel? Does that make you judge you that you’re not good enough or judge her as being slutty? Is it possible that those were 13 amazing experiences that supported her in becoming the fabulous woman she is today?
What would you think of me if I told you I had 134 lovers? Kidding. But did you instantly go into judgment of me? I haven’t had that many but I have had more than 13. I’m grateful for every experience. The good, the bad, the ugly… and the occasional sacred divine erotically blissful one…. which is what I wish for you.
I’m not right or wrong and you’re not right or wrong about how many people a person ought to sleep with. It’s a personal choice that we need not justify to anyone. So be yourself and find someone who’s a fit with your values to share your life with.
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