Mayday! Mayday! She’s losing interest! How do I keep this romance alive? Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt has some counterintuitive advice…
Question: We’ve been out on a few dates, but I feel that the lady I’m interested in is losing interest in me. I really like her. So how do I keep the interest alive? How do I even begin to talk about it with her?
Answer: Great man! If you think she’s losing interest and you think it’s because of you, and you start NOT being you to try to get her to like you, impress her, keep things alive… you will push her away.
It’s OK if this doesn’t work out. Really it is.
If being amazing YOU isn’t a fit, that’s OK!
If you think she’s losing interest because you’re NOT being you, you’re withholding, not speaking up, not being authentic etc. then for God’s sake show up and be you!
Yet if you are being you and it’s not a fit, bless her and release her and make room for someone who thinks you are the bomb just the way you are.
Now that said, you may need some ideas on turning gifts into experiences she’ll never forget… and I have a sweet product called Scoring a Relationship that I created for my clients with their very request. Yet they don’t do this to try harder or get her approval, they do so because they love support in the creativity department… and they LOVE making their woman happy.
I DO like the idea of talking about it, but not from a needy place like “Why don’t you call me anymore?” or guilt trip place like “Oh, so you answered the phone this time…” Gross. How about, “It could just be me, yet I’ve noticed our dynamic has changed a bit since we first started dating. Is there anything you’d like me to know or understand?”
If you require support in how to stay centered, grounded, present, in your power, not pushing or hiding, just being badass YOU, that’s why I created my complementary report and video series found at www.GetHerToSayYes.com Sink into that and then talk to her. Things will go much better I promise.
Bottom line. Be courageously in allowance of whatever happens, don’t compromise yourself for her approval. Don’t spin in your head about what isn’t real either, yes? And if this is happening from an emasculated heart, the problem isn’t going anywhere until it’s healed, so contact my [email protected] and let’s see if you are a fit for my program. My youngest client is 22, oldest 75. Never too early or late to be the King you truly are inside and out.
Massive love, Allana xox