There are certain undeniable signs when a relationship is ending. Here are four.
If you’ve ever had the thought “maybe we should break up,” then the answer is probably yes — especially if you’ve thought this phrase more than once, on multiple occasions.
Too many of us fight for relationships that aren’t worth salvaging. We cling to the notion that every relationship requires hard work but refuse to draw a line in the sand when it’s time to part ways. Quite simply, when the work outweighs the happiness, it’s time to move on.
It’s true that every couple goes through rough patches, but there is a distinct difference between hitting a few bumps in the road and repeatedly smashing your head against a wall.
One of the hardest things to do is to let go, especially if it’s to let go of someone you love. However, just because you love someone doesn’t mean you’re meant to be together forever. Here are some surefire signs that your “happily ever after” will happen with someone else.
We’ve all seen or heard of those couples who fight about absolutely nothing. A fight starts after someone eats the last Pop-Tart and doesn’t put it on the grocery list; it ends up as a screaming match about why you always wear sweatpants to bed.
While some arguments are healthy, if you’re fighting at least once a week, something clearly isn’t working. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life (or even one more minute) arguing?
After the honeymoon phase ends, sex can get a little stale. Yet, if you find yourself using stupid excuses to not have sex, like “I’m really sore from yoga” or “just one more episode of ‘House of Cards,’” then perhaps your subconscious is trying to tell you something. It’s normal to not be in the mood once in a while, but when you’re NEVER in the mood, it’s time to move on.
Fatal Familiarity (Refusing To Reevaluate)
The longer you stay in a relationship, the easier it is for each partner to grow distant. People often cling to the memories of who someone was, as opposed to who he or she is now.
If you met your significant other today, would you still want to be with him or her? Or has the person changed so drastically that you barely recognize him or her anymore?
On Again, Off Again
Repeatedly breaking up and getting back together is a huge sign that it should be over. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Breaking up once and then deciding to get back together is one thing, but if you can’t get through a girl’s night out or a game of Monopoly without calling it quits, chances are, you’re not going to make it through anything more serious.
Initiating a breakup is scary. It means you have to make a decision (and let’s face it, that’s what us Gen-Yers fear the most).
The only thing worse than losing someone about whom you care is staying with the person until you despise every fiber of his or her being. Don’t drag out your already deteriorating relationship.
Stop wondering and be honest with yourself: Do you really want to be with someone who eats your last Pop-Tart? Take a deep breath and shut it down, knowing that you deserve someone who won’t make you second guess.
Originally appeared at Elite Daily
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About the author: Samantha Rolfe. Samantha graduated from Eckerd College with a degree in creative writing. Originally from NH, she moved to sunny St. Petersburg, Fl to escape the cold. Self proclaimed adventurer (and possible adrenaline junkie) she enjoys throwing herself out of planes, off of bridges, and is always looking for the next thrill. She is passionate about smiling at strangers cats, puzzles, and all things fuzzy.