Saying “I love you” can be very important, depending on the angle you are coming from.
This is because you might run the risk of sounding creepy if you say it too soon, and also It’s possible to come across as uninterested if you say it too late. But knowing when to say it right could get you the girl of your dreams.
What are the signs that it is an appropriate time to declare your love for them? What should you be concerned about?
If you have been dating for some time, and you are already thinking of when to say, “I love you.” I have a few signs that might guide you through.
I’m telling you this mainly because I think that most of the feelings we have when we first meet someone or start a relationship can be infatuation, which can be intense and last only a short time.
You should make sure that the feeling you’re having is love, not infatuation.
Be different from the majority of men, those who would meet a girl on the street and immediately respond with, “I love you.”
Try not to do that, it’s a major mood killer. She won’t take you seriously, and she might say something mean to you, so you’ll probably leave with your ego bruised.
It takes time, and if you think about it, there is no need to rush to say “I love you” because it is such a powerful confession and such an important thing to say that you want to make sure you mean it when you say it.
It might be acceptable to say “I love you,” but always keep an eye on the room, if you’ve been dating for some time or after a few dates, done a lot of things together, and are quickly getting to know each other.
Better yet, confirm that the woman you’re about to declare your love for is prepared to accept it as it is.
When you say “I love you,” you should only mean it.
Some people believe that saying “I love you” helps you get the girl faster. However, timing is everything, and if you say it too soon, as I previously stated, you run the risk of coming across as a creep, someone who isn’t serious, and someone who says those words to random girls he meets on the street.
So, the little advice I can give to you is to only say “I love you” when you mean it, have thought it through, and know that what you’re feeling is real love, not something else.
Please believe me when I say that if you don’t mean those words, you should never say them because they can put you in very difficult situations that could come back to bite you later.
Say I love you only when you and your partner are on the same page in the relationship.
Now that you’ve met this woman, you’ve talked to her, she’s open and enjoying your company, you’ve been hanging out, and everything is going well. I think you two need to agree about where you think your relationship should go next before you can say, “I love you.”
You both need to be serious about what’s about to happen. Usually, you can tell if someone is serious by seeing if they match you in love, affection, and anything else you might have going on.
Please refrain from saying, “I love you,” until you are certain that this girl is exactly where you are or very close to being there.
Thanks for reading!
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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