Sometimes we have to look up at the sky and ask the universe for signs and sometimes, all we have to do is look around. I strongly believe that when it comes to relationships, the problematic signs are way more visible compared to personal life.
I also believe that diagnosing a troubled relationship brings out lessons about our inner flaws and imperfections as well, which makes it an important step to take in your love life.
I’ve dealt with good and bad relationships, some of them still make me smile and some others make me slam doors and get grumpy. although, I’m happy for going through all of them because they broadened my horizon for a better relationship in future.
Based on my experience, I suggest you recognize a relationship that takes you for granted, with signs like these:
- You’re the one who says yes and okay more often
- You have to lower your standards in order to keep things together.
- You have lots of fights with your partner in your head, but you almost never speak out.
- You don’t remember the last time you were asked how you feel.
- You feel uncomfortable once they care for you.
- You have to act dumb and forgetful so the truth won’t hurt you.
- You overthink everything before you say.
- You always feel a part of you is missing or ignored.
- You’re not comfortable showing your skills and qualities.
- You spend a lot of time in silence whether together or distant.
- There is always something that comes before you and you’re down the list.
- You can’t move forward or end things because everything is normal in their eyes. You’re literally stuck.
- Talking about issues often turns into irreversible damage.
- They play the blame game on you over little things.
- Your partner doesn’t seem to appreciate you or the things you do for them. They may not express gratitude or say “thank you” for the things you do.
- Your partner doesn’t put in effort to maintain the relationship. They may not make an effort to spend quality time with you or make plans with you.
- Your partner is more focused on their own needs and desires rather than considering your needs and wants. They don’t ask for your input or consider your feelings when making decisions.
- Your partner is not supportive of your goals and aspirations. They may not encourage you or help you when you need it.
- Your partner takes you for granted by not respecting your boundaries. They may not listen to you when you say “no” or may not respect your personal space and privacy.
If you are experiencing any of these signs, it may be a good idea to have a conversation with your partner about how you are feeling. If your partner is not receptive to a conversation about these issues, it is probably time to seek help or move on.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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