In the rich life experiences accumulated over the years, many people gradually develop their own habitual lifestyles. Remaining constantly busy, the sense of steadfastness in their hearts makes them feel increasingly fulfilled.
However, due to their busy schedules, their beloved may sometimes send a message asking what they want for dinner, only to receive a sorry response that they have to work overtime tonight. As they mature, expressing love is no longer the same as when they were young. The couple no longer repeatedly says “I miss you,” but instead, they always find endless topics to talk about before going to bed. I remember every festival related to my beloved and put in the effort to prepare a surprise. Hearing people around me always say “Busy will kill love,” I wonder: what does love look like after maturity?
Love after maturity means insisting on being together often, even in the midst of busyness. It involves knowing how to find romance in ordinary daily life by holding hands, smiling at each other, and slowing down the pace of life. Regardless of how busy life gets or how tiring work is, as long as you create three exclusive “heartbeats” in your relationship, you will have a more romantic “ritual sense” in your life, and your mature love will last longer, like a can of smooth beer that I enjoy drinking, with a sweet and long aftertaste.
1. Love as Lovers and Friends
I remember when we first started dating, we were like friends who understood each other the most. We talked about work, life, and even life plans, and it seemed that whenever we were together, we could take off our usual strong facade and be the most comfortable and at ease with each other.
In a long-distance relationship, after being together day and night for a long time, it’s easy to overlook important daily habits that maintain the relationship because the couple is used to each other’s presence. In a mature relationship, the happiest thing is when two people are “lovers and confidants.” No matter how busy they are, they treat each other like friends when they get together, listen to and understand each other, and walk into each other’s hearts with the softest attitude.
2. True Love is Independent
In young love, when the love is strong, people often want to be together all the time. But as one matures, they begin to understand the importance of maintaining individuality in a relationship and enjoy letting the other person be themselves.
In fact, the best kind of love is when one can have a good time alone and know that someone is thinking about them. During vacations, each person can take time for their own healing and relaxation, reading a book that inspires them or watching a drama while enjoying a drink. When they are apart, they can be independent, cultivate their own interests, maintain their own social circles, and have more topics to share with each other when they are together.
Taking occasional breaks in the relationship can make every meeting as exciting as the first time.
3. Shift Your Mood to “Love Mode” After Work
With strong workability, one is always trusted by colleagues around them in the workplace, but only they know that after work, they sometimes feel like a star that has run out of power, wanting only to turn on sleep mode and rest.
Shuttling between the busy work environment and sometimes forgetting to spend quality time with my beloved partner. Unknowingly, life has been reduced to only ‘work mode’ and ‘sleep mode.’ I get up for work in the morning and relax at night. Slowly, the relationship between us seemed to lack the excitement that we had when we first started dating. In fact, the love of a mature adult is for a sweet and sour peach — it must be carefully maintained and savored. The sweetness and juiciness must last in the mouth, and the lingering taste must be cherished.
After leaving work, you can try to switch your mood from ‘work mode’ to ‘love mode.’ You don’t necessarily need a grand candlelight dinner — even just walking hand in hand to a home-cooked restaurant that you both like and enjoying a warm meal together can do wonders. Take a walk along the embankment after dinner or enjoy a romantic drink of sweet and sour fruit wine before going to bed. Let the just-right slightly drunk feeling quietly ignite passion, and make a deep and lasting memory of your relationship in your book.
In conclusion, love after maturity means maintaining a strong and fulfilling relationship even in the midst of busy schedules. It involves finding romance in everyday life and creating special moments with your partner. As people mature, expressing love becomes less about grand gestures and more about being there for each other as friends and confidants. The best kind of love allows for individuality and personal growth while still supporting each other. To maintain a healthy and loving relationship, it’s important to shift your mood to “love mode” after work and make time for each other. Ultimately, mature love is like a can of smooth beer — it lasts longer and has a sweet and long aftertaste.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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