Relationships need support. Individuals need support. Everyone needs support. Face it, no matter how independent you are, even the most independent people need some dependence on others that does not require quid quo pros.
Selflessness, love, and unconditional support are the beginnings that are required, at the very least, for relationships, self-worth, and inspiration to be achieved fully. Being concerned for others more than yourself is hard to comprehend when loving yourself is equally important, but being selfless does not mean that a person does not love themselves more than others, in fact, to be selfless, loving oneself is necessary.
However, these characteristics allow for positive relationship building, greater understanding, and authentic presence.
True selflessness allows to be present in the growth of others and provides support and security. Deep affection is critical for tackling life’s journeys, which creates a passion for achieving goals, live authentically and sincerely, and positivity. Devotion and sympathy cannot exist without the existence of some form of love. Finally, we all endure and tolerate others but to endure and tolerate others unconditionally establishes and strengthens selflessness and love.
Selflessness, love and unconditional support allows for everyone to stand by others and have others stand by them. Everyone needs and desires for someone to “stand by me” because it provides security, reassurance, and companionship. Relationships need this. Families need this. Individuals need this. If you are not standing by yourself; supporting, loving, and unconditionally inspiring yourself, then you cannot stand by and support others.
To stand by someone is to provide support in a selfless, loving and unconditional manner.
Friends should provide this. Wives/Husbands should provide this. Moms/Dads should provide this. Brothers/Sisters should provide this. Families should provide this.
To not provide this is to stand against someone.
This does not mean arguments will not be had, feelings will not be broken, independence will disappear. Rather, standing beside means that even when opinions are not aligned congruently, for the happiness of the individual and others; practice selflessness, love and unconditional support. Only when these three characteristics are practiced, authentic and sincere relationships flourish: with partners, relationships with friends, and relationships with family.
My friends and family have done this for me. They all have selflessly and unconditionally supported me in the utmost loving manner because of their respect attributed to me. Their support over the years along with my growth and fully practicing these characteristics toward myself allowed me to embrace life fully and uplift others in their pursuits without judgment.
Therefore, to be the best friend, husband/wife, father/mother, sister/brother, or whatever you are to others whom you respect, be selfless, provide love, and offer unconditional support to develop relationships to their fullest, and to help develop those around you and yourself.
When relationships do not exhibit selflessness, love, and unconditional support, judgment occurs and understanding is absent. Taking the time to understand one another gives much more insight and growth potential.
Without the selflessness and unconditional support by those who respect and love me and stood beside me, I wouldn’t have grown into the authentic and sincere man I am today. In turn, I exhibit these characteristics toward others and myself to provide positive influences. My relationships—future and present—are better for it. I am better for it.
I choose to stand by those who I respect and love so they, in turn, can continue to stand by others whom they respect and love. I do this to uplift, not degrade, those around me. To uplift is to encourage and provide someone the courage to live their life for themselves and for those they love. To not stand beside is to stand against someone, it is to be selfish, which promotes resentment of, barriers within, regression of, not an evolution of, relationships.
Therefore, declare today to stand beside, not against those you love.