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Something has been bothering me for a few days. No. More than that. A few months, but I didn’t have a way of verbalizing the essence of it.
I’m tired of people who post memes and uplifting quotes and call it a day.
I’m fed up with people who say “I wish I could do more” and never do.
I’ve had my fill of “I’ll pray for you” and “My thoughts are with you.”
If you want to show someone you care, show up. Hear me? Show. The. Fuck. Up. Call. Text. Write. Knock on a door. Do something other than make yourself feel better by being a distant, unsupportive fake human.
Show up. Check in with people you know are struggling. Do it even when they aren’t talkative. Offer of yourself. Don’t say you care. Prove you care.
I’m tired of passive compassion. I’m weary of one-sided connection, which is no connection at all. Either be a friend, confidante, shoulder or helping hand or get out of the fucking way and let someone else do it.
I’m tired of watching it happen to friends over and over as they reach for a steadying hand only to grasp at the ghost of what never was.
Authenticity is sorely lacking in people today. We become what we think others will (insert your catch phrase here) instead of becoming ourselves.
Before you all start a life-changing mission to make your world a better place though (because a Facebook status always changes people’s minds right?) remember you can’t always show up for others.
Sometimes, you have to be there for yourself, even when it hurts. Even when your world is falling apart. Even when you’d rather be anywhere or anyone else.
Showing up means being authentic to you too.
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