The art of flirting is a delicate dance. A glance across the room, a coy smile, a light touch of the arm — these seemingly small gestures are the moves in an intimate tango between two interested parties. To master the art of flirting and inviting someone into an electric, romantic connection, here are my five techniques straight from the playbook of French seduction masters:
1.Focus on one person.
The key to flirting is engaging with someone who intrigues you. Look for signs of interest — a gaze that lingers a touch too long, a smile flashed in your direction. If you spot an opening chance, gather your confidence and make the first move. Rejection is also part of the game so learn to accept it with grace.
2.Read the signs.
Flirting is often non-verbal. Pay attention to body language and tone of voice. If her posture is open, leaning in, and her touches linger, that’s a good indication she’s interested. But if her arms are crossed or she’s looking around the room, take the hint that your overtures are unwanted. Respect her signals to avoid making her uncomfortable.
3.Choose the right occasion.
An airport lounge has a different vibe than a bustling coffee shop or an intimate wine bar. Think about what environment will convey the atmosphere you seek. Low-key, relaxed places that lend themselves to the conversation are ideal for getting to know someone. A hectic, crowded bar full of groups isn’t ideal for making personal connections.
4.Prepare topics in advance.
The slightly awkward silences of a first interaction are familiar to everyone. Prepare some questions or amusing anecdotes that reveal a little of your personality. Ask for the other person’s impressions or experiences. Look for common interests you can discuss. As comfort grows, the conversation will flow more naturally.
5.Don’t be pushy.
The finest flirting is grounded in respect, consent, and reciprocity. Pay close attention to the other person’s reactions. If you sense discomfort or disinterest, graciously withdraw. Forcing interactions or refusing to take ‘no’ for an answer will lose you points, not gain you any. Master flirts understand that the dance is best when both partners are fully engaged and enjoying the experience.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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