We lie. We lie all the time, and we’re so numb we don’t even see it.
For most of us, it’s not malicious. In fact, it’s done out of survival. To tell the truth, could mess with our marriage, our career or upending our entire world as we know it.
So we lie to keep it all together.
For me, lying sounds like “It will be okay. I’m almost there. I’ll figure this out.” It doesn’t matter what are of life; it’s the same lie.
Then I get squeezed by circumstance in my body, my money, my business and I shrink. Panic can set in, and I say “I don’t think I can do this.” I feel small and wonder how I will rise above.
Then I counter myself and say “but won’t it be okay? You have to keep a positive outlook. Stay in the game!”
And this dialogue creates the vicious cycle that keeps the lie alive because it never invites the light of truth to the conversation.
Telling the truth is the missing link that will evolve men to our full potential.
The facts. The truth. Only in telling the truth about the facts are we put back in the seat of power in our lives as men. Everything else is a story, a lie.
“It will be okay.” A lie.
“I can’t do this.” A lie.
So how do we tell the truth?
It starts with the facts about where you are right now in the areas of life that matter to you.
What are the facts of your money? What are the facts of your marriage? What are the facts with your kids? What are the facts about your body?
As you uncover what’s true, you’ll find another level of truth waiting for you. The temptation can be to find a fact and call it good. But your power lives in exposing it all. Without the facts, we can’t create change because we don’t know what we’re changing.
The tricky part of this process is that you’ll feel exposed, pissed off, even rage at yourself and others for the facts of your current life. But it is in the rage and the shadows that you find your voice and your resolve to rise. You find the courage to do the work to change your facts.
Men have been holding it together for too long. The truth scares us, and we don’t know what to do with it, so we bury it. Deep.
But our awakening is coming. And as more men stop lying and step into the truth of their life, we will find the resources and creativity to create change and live into our full potential.