I spent too much time feeling like a puppet with someone’s hand shoved up my back. I blame myself.
Where is the power to choose how YOU show up?
When you let others choose how you show up:
- Everything is ‘have to’ when contribution feels like coercion.
- Anger, ingratitude, and resentment pollute your thinking because you don’t feel seen or respected.
- Positive focus turns to negative energy.
- Others become enemies.
- Connection becomes dangerous.
- Winning is the goal. No one loves to connect with you if it means you win and they lose.
- Fear controls your approach. Self-protection disguises your authentic self.
Belligerent authenticity:
Belligerent authenticity is reacting against the expectation of others. Every time you push against external expectations – external expectations control you.
Most alive:
How do you love showing up?
You are most alive when you bring your best self in service to others.
I had a conversation with a leader who comes alive when talking about being a Scout Master.
- What is it about being a Scout Master that brings him to life?
- How might he bring those values and qualities to work?
The choice:
Every morning tasks and responsibilities thrash and scream for your attention. Your heart races while you look in the mirror. You’ve already lost yourself.
A bit of your soul shrivels when you give yourself to tasks before choosing how you show up.
Begin your day slowly.
How would your best self love to show up?
- Curious.
- Forward-looking instead of problem centric.
- Thankful.
- Committed to connect.
- Eager to contribute.
- Enabling others.
- Calm and focused.
If you chose how you showed up today, what would you choose?
How might leaders begin the day slowly?
Bonus material:
Women in Business Choose How You Show-Up
4 Ways To Be A More Authentic Person | Psychology Today
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