FACT FROM OPINION
Opinions. Everyone has one. The one which pervades most blogs is unhealthy. It seems those who search for love are lost. Hopeless romantics are fools. Depending on each other is a terrible idea. Vulnerable means a stab in the back. No one needs wives or husbands. Transactional partners will do. Casual sex is okay. Forget love making. The catch to all this independence? No miracles ever happen.
Here’s a miracle science confirms.
Purpose.
What is this? Most struggle to have purpose. If someone says their purpose is for another many scoff. We all know the horror stories.
We’ve heard divorce tales. We’ve read divorce woes. We’ve seen divorce drama.
Despite this truth another truth evades our eyes.
The real power of love.
LOVE ACCOUNTS
Love has given many the ability to endure unspeakable horrors.
The greatest psychotherapist, Viktor E Frankl documented what love does. Love carried many souls through unspeakable torture.
During the holocaust the survival rate for those who had significant others completely outshined singles. One can nearly guarantee the death of a single person. Those who did survive had commonality. The vast majority of those who survived sought to live on for another.
Love has given many the ability to endure unspeakable horrors.
We have documented cases of love. Some create unsurmountable strength in men to lift cars to rescue loved ones.
There are many reasons for love.
Love is a pursuit not of fiction but of fact. It is a bodily evolutionary process only fools deny. To understand love is another thing.
Few recognize its power and hold. Women are more attune to love than men. Despite this fact even men can recognize love.
WHAT LOVE CAN AWAKEN
Love is an endorphin rich, chemical process which propels people to heights unknown. Love really is blind. Sometimes love is sight.
Take a man who lost his memory of 29 years. Andrew and Kirsty Mackenzie is such an example of the miraculous event of love.
“He knew me, but I could see him looking through me,” Kristy, 54, told PEOPLE. “I tell you, that’s the scariest day of my life. Seeing him look through me like that, I didn’t know how I was going to get him back.”
Andrew lost his memory. He suffered from amnesia. Doctors had no prescription. Experts held no treatment. This man was lost to his wife.
That was…until his heart found her again.
Love is a pursuit not of fiction but of fact. It is a bodily evolutionary process only fools deny. To understand love is another thing.
Her husband not only recovered, but they fell in love again. The couple renewed their vows in front of their children and grandchildren on Aug. 29.
It was Kirsty’s constant hand holding of a stranger, true tears of love, and heart felt emotional connection which jogged his memory to return. These strong emotional bonds caused by love jolted a memory reconnection.
This case is not only a miraculous story but a testament of what true love gets you.
Miracles.
BEING SINGLE MEANS AN UN-MIRACULOUS LIFE
I know no single person who accomplished any miracles. I have read little history of loners who caused great social change. I never saw an exceptional bachelor make societal impact.
The course of history is seldom changed from selfishness.
The most memorable people are the ones recorded in ancient history. History is the judge of all eventful people. The people who shape the heavens and earth are recorded. The people who were fads fade with time.
I find no great person in the history of our species who insisted on independence. I find no great person in the history of our species who devalued family. I find no great person in the history of our species who marginalized love.
The opposite is true. If selfish people are remembered, it is not fame but infamy which keeps them alive.
ALL GREAT STORIES INVOLVE LOVE
Odysseus sailed the seas thousands of years ago to return to his wife Penelope. The trojan war began over hector’s brother stealing a wife away from an abusive husband. Braveheart started a war against England over his wife’s execution.
The course of history is seldom changed from selfishness.
What men can accomplish for the sake of love is amazing. What men accomplish for themselves isn’t worth remembering.
A man defied science because he saw his wife cry tears of sadness for their missing love. Seldom do miracles happen for reason unrelated to love. Even Joan of Arc had miracles happen for her love of God. What miracles has your independent lifestyle created for you? I’m guessing none.
To Your Knowledge Success!
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Resources:
1) A Man’s Search For Meaning. Frankl E. Viktor PhD. Beacon Press. Boston, Massachusetts. © 1959, 1962, 1984, 1992, 2006. ISBN 978–0–8070–1427–1
2) National Institute of Health (NIH) — National Library of Medicine. “The neuroendocrinology of love”. Seshadri, Krishna G. Indian J Endocrinol Metab. 2016 Jul-Aug; 20(4): 558–563. doi: 10.4103/2230–8210.183479. Accessed November 12 2022.
3) Upworthy Blog. “This Man Lost His Memory and Started Thinking It Was 1993”. He Just proposed to his wife gain. Khokar Vani. November 11, 2022. Accessed November 12 2022.
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