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I’m a person who dreams once every month or so but every single time I do, there seems to be a message for me, a lesson I should learn and apply to the real world.
I love whenever I have dreams like these because I can work on things I knew I had a flaw but never really focused on it.
Sometimes they show me things I don’t want to work on, things that are painful for me to do, not because they can cause me any physical harm but rather because they have already left me an emotional scar in the past (which is more painful than physical scars if you ask me)
The last dream I had involved me spending a whole day with a girl i liked a few years back.
We had a great time and I was open on doing things I wouldn’t have said yes before in my life.
I asked questions and tried to move most of the conversation towards her rather than on myself and my achievements (we all like to brag, even a little bit)
It felt like I wasn’t trying to impress or do anything crazy, all I did was enjoy her company, kind of what I do with any friend.
I had a BLAST in the dream, if it would have been a real date then it would have been my favorite one of all.
Why? Because I was having fun.
I wasn’t trying to impress her or get her t like me, I was living in the moment and enjoying her friendship.
Two things happen to me as soon as I wake up to amazing dreams like this one.
First, I feel a little sad that I had to wake up from such a nice place and then I remember that it was all made by my imagination (probably)
Second, I have to write it down as I’m doing right now in order to fully comprehend what the dream was trying to tell me.
Sometimes there’s a 3rd and 4th thing I do. I may write a song about the experience I had in my dream or I will message the person that was in my dream.
The third one is for me.
The fourth one is to see how that person in the dream is doing.
After I’ve assimilated everything and know what the lesson is, I work on it every single day.
For example, the dream I had last night taught me to stop thinking so much in the future and start enjoying the present with the person I have in front of me.
You could argue that it also taught me that I shouldn’t be trying to impress girls and rather have fun with them, which is also true but I feel like the first one sort of fixes the second one in some way.
Most people don’t pay attention to their dreams and dismiss them. I prefer to see them as a tool to keep on growing as an individual.
I would recommend you do the same next time you have a deep dream that feels like it lasted a whole entire day.
You don’t have to go and make a song like I do, hell you don’t even have to write it down, as long as YOU know what the dream was trying to tell you, you’re doing it well.
Have you had a dream with a lot of detail? What did you do with it? Leave it in the comments and we can discuss it 🙂
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This post was previously published on www.medium.com and is republished here with permission from the author.
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