I see books and articles all the time with titles declaring what women really want from a man. It’s a click-bait cottage industry, telling people what other people, think, want, feel.
But here’s the big secret:
What every woman wants is different, including some who want nothing at all. I can tell you this, *people* don’t want to be beaten, raped, robbed, silenced, dismissed, sidelined, trapped or used. THAT I can confirm.
One of the most enraging aspects of the poison being spread by masculinity extremists, pick up artists, MRA’s, and Incels, is their drumbeat insistence that women (or men) are all the same. This is intentionally dehumanizing. It’s hateful extremism designed to get women killed.
If any among us seem to conform to narrow gender rules, it is because CULTURALLY we are bullied and beaten into behaving as if we are all the same, punished for expressing our wide-ranging diversity. Movements for feminism and for masculinities of connection advocate for the fully diverse expression of gender.
Gender is an infinite continuum. We all exist somewhere along that continuum and well beyond it. If you want true freedom in your life, advocate for a non-binary view of gender. Then, pick the version of gender that fits for you. THAT is actual freedom. That is true courage.
Men and women, boys and girls, and non-binary people are, quite simply, everything possible.
Previously Published on Medium