Texting is now an important part of dating. Here are the texting mistakes not to make.
Although a few months ago I wrote a short eBook about texting, which I gave out on my Facebook Page, I still get an insane amount of questions surrounding the matter.
They’re usually along the lines of “I need help with texting,” or “Why isn’t she replying to my texts?” This article is going to cover the six major mistakes you’re making because, if you’re doing any of these right now, that’s probably why she hasn’t replied.
1. You’re over-analyzing everything she says in her text messages.
Text messages are not nearly as important as what you say and do when you actually meet her. They are a great way to flirt and keep in contact, but never give them much thought. This over-analyzing behavior is what destroys most guys’ chances with girls.
2. You’re needy.
Many guys don’t even realize what neediness is. If you’re always asking her about the next time you’ll go out, if you’re always laughing and LOLing at her stupid jokes, if you’re constantly trying to get more useless chitchatting out of her, YOU ARE NEEDY. Neediness is one of the major turn-offs for both men and women, which is why you should refrain from yourself from such a horrible texting habit.
3. You’re asking her too many questions.
This goes back to neediness (trying to get more conversation out of her), but at the end of the day, it’s a mistake on its own. Do you really care about the sh*tty day she had at work, punching data into some database? Nope. All you care about is getting to see her again so that you can bring her by your place and ravish her.
If that’s what you really want, why the hell are you asking her so many stupid questions? Keep it cool, make clear and intriguing statements, and don’t put too many or even ANY question marks at the end of your messages. It will only get her more interested in you.
4. You’re just like everyone else.
Every guy that gets her number sends her the classic “Hey cutie/sexy, how’s it going?” or “Hey you, are you free this Wednesday?” Believe me when I say, every guy sends her the same message. If you do it too, then you’re just as boring as everyone else.
You want her to smile when she sees your name pop up on the screen, so mix things up a little. Call her out on things, tease her, intrigue her, make your texts exciting.
5. You wait too long.
There’s no such thing as a three-day rule or any other bullsh*t you hear about. The best thing to do is to get her number and just say, “I’m going to text you tomorrow.” Once you say that, she’s already expecting it, which means she’s much more likely to reply.
If you wait it out too long, you’re just going to give her more time to forget about you. If you didn’t spit quality game and that number wasn’t all that solid, that girl is as good as gone.
6. You’re not funny.
One of the key things about texting is humor. When you’re texting someone, you’re not having the serious conversation you’d have in person. That’s the big issue many people overlook. You’re just exchanging short messages between one another.
These messages need to be funny, sexy and witty. Without that, your texts are identical to everyone else’s. If you make her laugh, make her feel sexy, if you actually stand out, you can rest assured that you’re almost halfway into her pants.
Texting isn’t all that complicated. You just have to make sure the attraction keeps going. Remind her of how good she felt when she met you and work on setting up the next meeting. It’s really just that simple.
Originally appeared at Elite Daily
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About the author: Alex Matlock is an expert in dating and relationships. Apart from working on his Ph.D. in social psychology and writing for EliteDaily.com, he also owns two dating advice websites. Both are places where the “dating” mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct (and fruitful) methods of succeeding with the opposite sex. If you’re a man and want to increase your success with women, visit http://ThePlayerGuide.com. If you’re a woman and want to improve your love life’s success, visit http://TheSingleWomanGuide.com.