A low-key flex
I joined the community of a cat guy on Instagram. Yes, he has toned muscles and lots of tattoos. But his exercise page doesn’t get as much engagement and love as his cat daddy profile.
He quit the exercise page. All this focus goes to the cat page. The shift was a simple decision; I assume he makes way more from cat affiliate links.
Men want to flex their arms and wealth.
Women like good-looking men who can also flex their non-physical qualities. He cleans up after three cats and cares for them like these pets are his children. Women love to see it. His DMs must have a ton of sneaky crawlers.
He is one of many accounts flooded by women because the man can do both. Look good and care for someone else.
You likely know this reference. The guy doesn’t show his face. He cooks delicious-looking meals with his abs displayed and has the dirtiest innuendo captions.
These men have all the women interested. Their singleness is a choice.
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An overlooked view
I have mentioned my favorite IG couple in this story.
The other couples whose content I engage with have similar relationship stories. The duo started with nothing. They had no trust funds, uncertain career paths, and limited funds.
If you saw them now without context, you would assume she married the man for his money. Nope. They built wealth together.
A woman wants a man who has the basics — discipline.
He may not know his next move. But the man is willing to figure it out with his partner. Devale, like Austin from the Ace Family, did not get to go into professional sports. Both men, with the support of their partners, did not stay crushed by this career loss.
They rebuilt their legacy elsewhere.
The “right” woman wants to grow with you.
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A delicate balance
It is rare when men come across like Gary Vee. That’s how I would describe this energy. You are confident with established boundaries. And you can still be empathic towards others.
Yeah. It’s a super hard emotional balance.
It is one where you value your boundaries and self so much you avoid caring what people think. But you have enough compassion to listen and give gentle yet firm responses.
And that’s why the pet factor gets mentioned first. Looking after someone or something usually brings out this delicate balance in some men.
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