Women don’t like to flirt blatantly.
They prefer to drop tiny hints when they’re attracted to a guy.
This reduces the risk of them appearing ‘easy’ and prevents them from being rejected by a man.
The problem is: the hints that women give are usually too indirect for men to notice.
That’s why I’ve decided to list 11 subtle behaviors that suggest a woman is attracted to you.
The more of these you spot, the more sure you can be that a woman wants you to make a move.
11 Subtle Signs A Woman Is Attracted To You
1. She Stands Closer To You Than Necessary
If a woman is turned off or feeling neutral towards you, she’ll always keep a respectable distance.
If she voluntarily breaches your personal space, she probably likes the cut of your jib.
What’s more, if you’re standing at an empty bar and a woman decides to stand right next to you, that’s usually a good sign that she wants you to talk to her.
2. She Touches You Unnecessarily
If the first tip was a green light to flirt with a woman and ask her out, consider this a green beacon shining painfully in your eyes.
When a girl initiates physical contact unnecessarily, it’s a strong indicator of interest.
- playfully hitting you after you tell a joke?
- steadying herself on your shoulder as she walks past?
- standing so close that her boobs press against your arm or chest?
- sitting so close that her legs rub against yours?
- constantly touching you for seemingly no reason?
Then, it’s time to make your move. Women will avoid these forms of physical contact unless they’re romantically interested in a man.
3. Her Feet Point Towards You
Remember that woman stood next to you at the empty bar? If she’s facing in your direction with her feet pointing at you, take that as an extra sign that she wants you to introduce yourself.
If you’re in a group conversation and this woman’s feet point towards you, that’s great too. Consider it a reliable indicator that she’s more interested in you than anyone else.
4. She Mirrors Your Body Language
It’s generally agreed by body language experts that people tend to copy each other’s physical gestures when they’re attracted to each other. It’s called ‘mirroring’.
So, if you notice a woman mirroring your body language, try changing it and seeing if she follows.
5. She Keeps The Conversation Going
This is more obvious when texting. If a woman isn’t interested in meeting you for a date, she’ll put no effort into keeping the conversation active. If she wants to meet you, she’ll be the one bringing up new conversation topics or asking questions.
A good test of a woman’s interest in a bar is to let the conversation go silent for a few seconds. If she likes you, she’ll rack her brain for something to say. If she doesn’t, she’ll leave and talk to someone else.
You can replicate this test in the DMs by responding to her latest message without asking a question.
6. She Quickly Replies To Your Messages
If a woman is quick to reply to your messages, that’s a reliable sign that you’re one of the priorities in her life. If it takes days or weeks for her to reply, you’re not. That’s true even if she says she’s ‘really busy’ or a ‘bad texter’.
Take a look at who has the bigger text bubbles in your conversation too. That’s a telltale sign of who’s more invested.
Hopefully your conversations aren’t as green as this…
7. Her Friends Know Who You Are
If you meet your crush’s friends and they already know your name, that’s a good sign. It means she’s been gossiping about you — and girls are less likely to chit-chat about guys they have no romantic interest in.
If her friends also know some facts about your life, that’s an even better situation.
8. She Teases You
Teasing is a fun form of flirting, but a lot of men don’t realise that.
If you’re at the bar and some woman runs off with your hat in a fit of giggles, she’s essentially asking you to play with her.
If a woman cheerfully makes fun of you in a conversation, that’s another subtle way of inviting you to play. Women also do this to test your confidence.
This is a risque form of flirting, which women will never try unless they really want your attention.
9. She Laughs At All Your Jokes
It’s easier to laugh at someone’s jokes if you genuinely like them. That’s why it’s a reliable indicator of interest if a woman laughs hard at all your silly gags.
For extra reassurance, look out to see if she’s laughing at quips that you don’t even think are that funny.
I’ve even seen it recommended to tell unfunny jokes as a litmus test of whether a woman likes you.
10. She Likes All Your Social Media Posts
As a rational and logical man, you might think that a woman sends a ‘Like’ because she likes the post itself.
A lot of women don’t see it that way though. They see an Instagram ‘Like’ as a way of showing you like the post’s creator. It blew my mind when I first heard this, but many of my female friends have confirmed the theory.
There are exceptions to this supposed rule. If it’s an incredibly funny or heart-warming post, a woman may ‘Like’ it without being particularly interested in you.
But, if it’s just a picture of you standing in a street, you can take their ‘Like’ as a form of digital flirtation. Even more so if it’s a topless snap on the beach. Indeed, ‘thirst trap’ posts might be the most reliable barometers of which followers have a crush on you.
11. She Doesn’t Acknowledge You At All
This will seem odd considering the first 10 points, but it needs to be acknowledged.
Some women are so shy that they won’t even dare to glance in your direction for fear of embarrassing themselves in front of you.
If she acts colder than a polar bear’s fridge-freezer around you — and you’ve given her no reason to hate you — there’s every chance she has a super-secret crush.
Of course, there’s only one way to find out and that’s what I want to end this post explaining to you.
You Don’t Need To Wait For A Sign That She Likes You
It’s commonly suggested that men should wait for an ‘indicator of interest’ before introducing themselves to a woman.
I think that’s awful advice though.
As we’ve explored, some women will hide their interest in the men they want to talk to them.
On top of that, women are more attracted to a man’s personality than his looks. So, as an average-looking guy, you’re not going to witness many of the signs mentioned in this guide until you walk over and start flirting with women.
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