TABLETOP SURPRISE
Here I am. I’m sitting across the table from a beautiful woman. Earlier the whole restaurant was trying to understand. They wanted to know who she was waiting for. Then I come. Of course. It would have to be me. International best-selling author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t. My car is the only one like it. There’s an appeal about it. Red. They park it in front. The whole restaurant wants to know who I’m meeting. Then they connect the dots. It’s her. Makes sense. The catch?
She’s not my girlfriend.
She’s my business partner.
A good one too. She has a lot of integrity. We’re building a great friendship too.
She had a cashier’s check for me. It was a payment owed. She’s always punctual. She’s always on time. If she’s late she has a good reason.
Her communication matches her energy. She is consistent and doesn’t have amnesia over things she signs.
I don’t have to re-explain signed paperwork. I’ve had to do that more than once this past month. Very disappointing. Especially when it comes to my own money.
Many have integrity issues. Not her.
Then I get a message.
THE GIRLFRIEND EN ROUTE
My phone dings. Apparently, a girlfriend is about 6 minutes away. My business partner is 27. She is objectively beautiful. She’s attractive too. She speaks well and has great character traits.
This is enough to make any woman jealous.
Here she walks in.
I stand.
I kiss the girlfriend. She kisses me back. I introduce her. They both shake hands.
What happens now? They both enjoy each other’s company. Each share steak with me. Did I have any drama for it? Nope. Zero.
After dinner we went out and had a good time. The night ended with a better time.
UNDERSTANDING CLEAR BOUNDARIES
Many confuse my words. Trolls attempt to take words out of context. There is confusion about non monogamy before marriage. For some reason everyone inserts the ideas of sex and intimacy into the equation.
I believe in exclusive sex with one woman at a time.
I am not for having sex with multiple people at one time.
Sex with multiple women at one time is unsafe, unclean, and spiritually draining. Period.
This exclusivity does not extend to forming relationships with new heterosexual women. It is possible for a man to develop other areas of relationships on a non-exclusive basis. These areas include emotional support, friendship, business partnerships, psychological intimacy, and fun.
When I say non monogamy before marriage, I am discussing specific types of relationships. I am discussing relationships we once developed before all of us had sex.
Do you remember being fourteen? We went out on non-sexual dates all the time. We involved ourselves in relationships without sex. We fell in love without sex. Sometimes we hung out with the opposite sex for months on end without kissing.
This wasn’t us being scared. This was us being moral. We all respected ourselves. Somehow society taught us bad concepts.
Where did all this go?
OPTIONS CAN EXIST FOR NON-MARRIED PEOPLE EQUALLY
There is nothing wrong with this working both ways. A woman should keep options open until a man proposes to her. Boyfriend girlfriend is just an application period. During this application period, I believe there should be an understanding for exclusive sex.
Why?
Both partners should consider each other enough to decide they are not going to give each other diseases. It seems like a basic concept to me. It doesn’t mean that other people don’t have ways of keeping all partners safe. But I believe it is simply not worth the risk.
Options are people who are eligible for marriage but instead of marriage pursuit healthy relationships are built instead.
The person who keeps their options open does not express marriage intentions to the option. The person only expresses healthy relationship intentions to the option.
This means there is no passionate kissing. This means there is no sexual groping. This means there is no sexual innuendos. There are firm boundaries. These boundaries allow both people to form real relationships. Ironically, the areas developed compose about 75% of what a marriage relationship is supposed to be.
Marriages should have great relationships in: friendship, partnership, communication, fiscal responsibility, shared goals, spirituality, emotional support and fun.
Appropriate relationships develop these areas with absence of sex.
MOST ARE NOT CAPABLE OF THIS
I’ll admit, not everyone can do this. This is one of those exceptional moments I highlight. This behavior is the exception not the rule.
There is a difference between a person who is misleading you to simply cheat in the open and someone who really has restraint. There is a fine line between the two.
It is rare to sit across the table from an attractive woman, have a girlfriend pop up unannounced and it does not result in pandemonium.
This behavior evolves from a position of privilege. I recognize this. This behavior is enabled from financial success, tremendous personal growth, and learning from wrong behavior.
Deeply spiritual men can attain this behavior if they are very financially successful, do a lot of personal work on themselves, and unfortunately partaken in bad behavior where they realize it hurts them to adopt the bad behavior going forward.
A man must see correcting his errors for his own benefit and then satisfy selfish curiosity by simply saying to himself, “Been there done that.”
I am not curious about other women because I’ve simply had enough (take that for whatever it’s worth).
THE INCOMPLETE GUY MISLEADS
The truth is most guys do not tell their women about these alternative relationships. These same guys mislead the women on both sides. When both come together, they quickly dissect the guy is full of it. The outcome is bad.
The outcome is only good when everyone knows and understands what it is before these situations develop.
That’s what I do.
Guess what?
Not everyone stays for it. Half the women I’ve talked to are not interested in my behaviors. The half that stays dwindles to about 2 or 3. The ones who initially stay are just curious. After curiosity satisfies itself, they move on.
Most modern western women want complete exclusivity out the gate.
Emotional exclusivity, friendship exclusivity, and sexual exclusivity. American women want complete and utter commitment of a wife from day one.
I’m not complaining. I’m just observing.
Most don’t care if it’s one week or one year. That’s just the way it is in America.
A MAN’S TAKE ON A COMPLETE OFFER UP FRONT
Complete exclusivity from day one is a bad deal. That’s why I decline most women’s requests for me to do so.
It’s a lot more give than take. I can’t personally fathom compelling my entire being to a person who hasn’t even decided to love me. There’s not that much there. As a man I’m being offered sex and some emotional support. I can’t even say “full” emotional support. We all know sharing too much too soon can cause a woman to run away.
Women don’t share resources. So, money is not offered. Those that offer typically like to control me. Most women are offended if they pay for a date.
I have only had two women in my entire life write me a poem. There’s very little romanticism from women to men. Even Juliet said to Romeo, “Romeo where art thou?”
So I’m typically receiving no romance. It’s just a thank you to a nice note or a loved text. Not much effort is put in that department to make me feel special.
I’m usually waiting a day to even get a response to basic text messages. No problem with that. Just saying. I don’t even have access to a woman’s priority on day one.
As you can see ladies. What is offered for Complete Exclusivity on day one is usually a bad deal. That’s why I don’t offer it.
MOST WOMEN ARE NOT ALL WOMEN.
I know these facts. I have no issue attracting the right type of women. I’m happy with the girlfriend I have. She knows I develop alternative relationships. It was hard for her at first. It was new.
She understood because I asked her a set of hard questions. Those questions my previous wife would have said yes to without a second thought.
What did she do?
She hesitated.
At that moment she saw my point. The newest thing about me was my honesty. Most guys mislead and lie. I am not that way. I only can be myself.
Rejection is the path to happiness.
I am who I am. A man who believes in matching energies and fair exchange. No one is entitled to anything. We all earn what we get. That’s very unpopular among many women.
My belief in monogamous marriage dictates I am only supposed to marry one woman. Who cares if 99% of women reject me? That’s the point. There is one waiting to accept me as I am. That’s the woman who earns my complete exclusivity. I’m still waiting for her. When I find her, I’ll ask her to marry me. If I’ve already met her…she just needs to match energy. She might be pleasantly surprised if she does.
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Resources:
1) The life of Christopher Knight Lopez a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”.
2) Sage Journals. “Poly/logue: A Crticial Introduction to Polyamory”. Haritaworn Jin, Klesse Christian. Volume 9, Issue 5. December 2006. Accessed October 25 2022.
3) Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners. Anapol, Deborah, Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Inc. 2010. Accessed October 25 2022.
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About Christopher: Christopher Knight Lopez is a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”. Christopher has opened over 7 businesses in his 15-year career. Christopher’s purpose is to take advantage of various market-driven opportunities. Christopher is a certified Master Project Manager (MPM), and Accredited Financial Analyst (AFA). Christopher previously held his Series 65 securities license examination and was a Master Financial Planner (MFP). Christopher also held his General Lines — Life, Accident, Health & HMO. Christopher has managed a combined 286mm USD in reported Assets Under Management & Assets Under Advisement. Christopher has work experience in 33 countries, raised over 50mm USD for various businesses, and grossed over 13.0mm in his personal career. Christopher worked in the highly technical industries of: biotechnology, finance, securities, manufacturing, real estate, and residential mortgages. Christopher is a United States Air Force Veteran. Christopher has a passion for family, competitive sports, fishing, martial arts and advocacy for entrepreneurs. Christopher provides self-help classes for up-and-coming entrepreneurs. Christopher’s passion to mentor comes from belief that entrepreneurs need guidance. The world is full of conflicting information about entrepreneur identity. See more at www.christopherklopez.com.
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