00:00
body-shaming not just the white girls or
00:03
the suburbs anymore
00:05
that’s not mine is it oh gosh I’m not 5
00:11
oh gosh you couldn’t say he’s a nice
00:18
body so I’m seeing a lot of headless
00:21
torsos helpless romantic
00:23
he says horny you what a romantic who’s
00:25
up at 7:30 and looking for sleep well I
00:30
okay morning wood um that’s what we’ll
00:32
say you need pics and stats you have to
00:35
be hot I don’t but you have to seems
00:38
like a real winner I’m obviously gonna
00:40
talk to him we’re tackling the issue of
00:42
body shaming in the gay world I want to
00:45
know if gay guys worry about their
00:46
bodies too much yes have one come to
00:51
percent too much there’s no such thing
00:52
worrying about your body is worrying
00:54
about your health
00:54
basically your value is how you look you
00:56
don’t fuck you have a six-pack you’re
00:58
not fucking getting laid I think
00:59
everyone obsesses over their bodies too
01:01
much I think that’s especially prevalent
01:03
in the gay community you know they could
01:05
be very proud they probably worked
01:07
really hard to get there and that’s why
01:08
that’s why I do it took me a long time
01:10
to get to this body so if I have it I’m
01:12
gonna show it oh but you work out
01:13
because you want to or did you feel like
01:15
you have to I have to all my friends
01:16
work out all the time and I feel like
01:19
where I like need to keep up with the
01:21
Joneses let me drink our dinner in the
01:25
gay community it’s all about the body 5
01:28
a choice I’d rather just fucking stay in
01:30
my bed and watch movies all night being
01:33
fit to me means kind of the same as
01:35
being healthy and you don’t just take G
01:36
or coke all the time that’s not really
01:38
healthy to me yeah it’s cute to look at
01:39
but you look sick it’s all good okay Ben
01:48
what was the first thing you noticed
01:50
today about switching profiles in Austin
01:52
I thought I could message guys right I
01:54
would never dream up messaging like this
01:57
guy
01:57
I can read
01:59
did when you’re setting your own picks
02:01
out what goes on in your mind we’ve been
02:03
having this conversation and like you
02:04
know they think I’m funny and ever and
02:06
I’m like is this gonna ruin it does that
02:08
happen a lot
02:09
um it doesn’t I mean it does happen but
02:11
I try to aim appropriately you know
02:15
people don’t to waste time so they put
02:18
right there I’m looking for this this
02:19
not into this if that’s not you don’t
02:23
message me you know what do you know
02:24
people were like obsessed with body
02:26
image let it go image is just one thing
02:28
and you don’t know what anybody’s going
02:30
through to get to that image and there
02:32
is not a specific type of person that
02:34
falls into just your one category
02:37
because it’s so disconnected from actual
02:39
reality a lot of people think because
02:41
they have this perfect body they can
02:43
kind of get away with saying and doing
02:44
whatever they want on the Internet would
02:46
you ever date a fat guy now
02:47
no lol but I don’t mind a little weight
02:50
as long as it’s not sloppy not sure what
02:53
that means but he feels like it’s a safe
02:55
place to talk shit on people that are
02:57
heavier I know everybody has a specific
02:59
type right but that doesn’t mean that
03:01
you need to limit yourself to only those
03:04
qualifications I have found it healing
03:06
to embrace Who I am and brace what I
03:09
love about myself and then only focus on
03:12
the people that want to celebrate those
03:14
things ok I’m heading out to West
03:15
Hollywood and destroy people’s lives
03:18
thank you so much for talking to say I
03:20
love it thank you guys for doing that
03:21
pretty shit
03:27
new girls are all in harmony together I
03:31
love my life sometimes
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