Helpful information from Ross Rosenberg for people whose partners suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
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In part two of his video series, The Impossible Connection: Loving Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder, Ross Rosenberg explores the origins of the hurtful behavior often associated with BPD, its impact on partners (who are often codependent), and how to understand and respond to it.
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I am not sure if I understand your comment correctly,but I wish you all the best.
Do not give up on love ,just find somebody that treat you with dignity and respect,
Thank you for the kind words. But yes, I am absolutely giving up on “love.” I don’t need a romantic relationship to be happy. I need less drama in my life. And less “stuff.” I’ve had enough drama for one lifetime. Fuck marriage. I’m going to focus on my two little boys, having awesome adventures with them, my career, and persuing my hobbies and interests without answering to anyone; without having a high-conflict spendthrift vampire drain my time, my peace, my finances, and my emotional well-being. Or wind-up the children with constant paranoia, emotional disregulation, and conflict. I’m no longer… Read more »
Marriage is so challenging that is an institution only suited for the 100% emotional healthy individuals among us.
I hope all ends well for you.
I barely survived the irrational, crazy-making behaviour and had to fight like hell to get shared parental responsibility. The kids voted with their feet and have been with me ever since. She wasn’t Evil, she was a human being who behaved in an evil manner. Get out while you can.
Hi Ross
it is pity you are silent.
I have a question to you a person well educated and with a job to help troubled people heal.
Did you approve of the illustration to your article and video?
Do you as a specialist in personality disorders, do you think this is good and respectful illustration ?
It sounds like many men in MGTOW and M’RA can be diagnosed with BPD.
I suspect many MGTOWs are rather former victims of abusive BPD ex-spouses… One round with crazy is enough for anyone – “noping the fuck out of there” is the rational solution.
It looks to me that there are lots of MGTOW, but then I may be wrong.
The percentage of men and women that can correctly be diagnosed with BPD in a population can not be that high.
But maybe the actual numbers of MGTOW are smaller than I imagine?
And many of them are abusive themselves. No abusive spouse can cause that.
Cool that you were calling people wit BPD crazy over there. Way too cool. Bro.
No abusive spouse can drive a man to swear off marriage?! Are you fucking kidding me?
And yeah, borderlines are abusive, crazy, and dangerous. I’ve been on the receiving end of borderline abuse. It’s life-destroying evil. Never again.
May I ask if she was diagnosed by anyone well qualified to give diagnoses like that?
I am curious because in the internet today lots of people seems to give themselves this diagnose or think a person can correctly be diagnosed with BPD if he or she is abusive.
Not all persons that struggle with this illness behave abusive towards others and many persons can be evil and abusive without falling in under this diagnoses.
An evaluation process is currently underway.