I usually tend to address women’s issues within their boundaries because that’s where they mostly arise. But when it comes to a relationship, there are some factors that we need externally from our favorite men, our partners.
A lot of women don’t speak out for themselves. they also think a man should know by nature how to treat a woman. Well, they can be both right and wrong. To make it easier for everyone, let me share some of our secret desires from men that will surprisingly leave your wallet untouched.
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Let Her Know About your Feelings Everyday:
Some guys think if they say they love their partner once, it’s okay to postpone it for the next 10 years. that’s a very masculine perspective. Women have an emotional battery, it is a man’s duty to keep that battery full by expressing his heartfelt feelings. She needs you to nourish her constantly or she will have to contribute less and less to save energy!
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Allow her to Shape Her World Around You:
Dear men, I know you like to focus on life in solidarity but women are the opposite. They need your inspiration. they need you to be part of their world. If you cannot provide that, you will leave them with insecurity.
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Make Her The Center Of Your Universe:
Women admire men who are fully present around them. So once you’re spending time with her, especially in busy or more distant relationships, do your best to devote yourself to what makes her feel she belongs with you. Not all women want roses or fancy dinners, some are happy with laying on your lap and having some romantic conversation.
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Make Her Feel Empowered:
Your girl is in her most vulnerable state when his man is not supporting her feelings and actions. We can diagnose these women by their low self-esteem around their men and trust me, other men notice it too. they notice that your woman is not comfortable around you, and they will get close to your woman by giving her what you don’t. that’s how crucial your support can be. remember that we don’t want blind appreciation, we want your dedicated work that empowers us.
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Help Her To Feel Equal:
There are a lot of women out there who struggled many times to succeed/survive being a woman. It feels so horrible to see someone doing better than you just because he’s a man, and even worse, he’s trying to be your boyfriend! women need men who leave all the gender discrimination behind, roll up their sleeves and stand by their women. be it helping with chores or sharing the ups and downs of the day, there are many ways to lift her up. make her feel safe with you, like a best friend.
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Practice Intimacy Without Sex:
Please don’t be one of those guys who only touch their women for sex! It’s a huge turn-off. if you give that negative signal that you will only get close to her for satisfying your pleasure, you will leave her no other choice than emotionally detaching from you, which soon will end your relationship. run your fingers in her hair, touch her face, hold her, feel her body without expecting anything else, and she will never forget.
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Gift Her With A Non-Materialistic Spiritual Love:
Sophisticated women of our age will not check your wallet. leave 1000 dollars in their place by mistake and they won’t touch it. I understand that men like to provide for their loved ones, it makes them feel more of a man but that keeps everything shallow and materialistic. a slow calm walk in the city or a simple picnic in the park can be worth more to us than expensive dates.
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Let Her Be The Yin to Your Yang:
Assure her that she is part of your present (and your future if possible). make plans with her or share them with her. make sure she gets to comment, and follow her suggestions sometimes. be a good listener, practice your patience, and be more gentle towards her. introduce her to your community, friends, or family. all of these activities make her feel inseparably bonded with you.
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Fight For and Make Her Feel The One:
I hope it doesn’t sound selfish that women enjoy men fighting for them. By that, I don’t mean breaking other guys’ legs for her. no. it means when things are shady between you two, you will do your part to fix things. she also wants you to mark your territory and shoo other men away. she enjoys being seen with you in grocery shopping or generally in the crowd. Cause you make her feel complete.
The End./
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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