Question: Coach Allana, I walked in on my girlfriend kissing another man! She said it was a mistake, she was vulnerable and he was saying all the right things at the right time. She was so confused. Should I trust her? It was only a kiss but maybe’s she’s telling the truth.
Answer: Oh my goodness… Holy crap! That’s got to feel like a kick in the stomach? A slap in the face! I’m so sorry. What a shock.
Actually I shouldn’t jump to conclusions… sometimes that would really turn somebody on or be somebody’s fantasy… But I think that’s not your point of view, right?
I throw that in there for when we’re GLUED to one point of view of WRONG and BAD then it’s hard to see the gift in a challenge, yes?
I think we’ve probably all been there… When a man or woman says all the right things at the right time, yes? I think we’ve all been confused and made mistakes, yes? I’m pretty sure she’s telling the truth. She’s probably embarrassed. Feels out of control. Disconnected from her power. Or uncertain how to navigate her sexual energy.
And you’re right, it is only a kiss… And yet I think the bigger invitation here is how to handle challenges in your relationship… and how do you navigate trust when there are breaches like this… Or worse?
I’m not sure how old you and your girlfriend are, yet I know for myself as I grew more into my confidence and maturity… I learned how to say no, I learned to navigate rejection, I learned to sit in the fire, I learned not to seek approval from the outside in, I learned to not give my power away to try to be liked.
I don’t know where your girlfriend is on her journey of confidence… However my homestudy curriculum called Radiance would be a sensational 6 week program for her to work through so she could learn to source her sense of confidence, power and worthiness from the inside out so that even if men say all the right things at the right time… she’s not confused and she can live her truth.
Wouldn’t that be a benefit to her life and your relationship?
For you great man, this is an invitation for you to either close your heart in mistrust and bitterness, feeling less than or even emasculated or unworthy… Or it’s an opportunity to keep your heart open, define your worthiness from the inside out, not turn into a judgmental ass or a hesitant nice guy… and truly be the Noble Badass that can navigate your relationship into deeper vulnerability, intimacy, honesty and thriving. Thus I would recommend for you to simultaneously go through my men’s home study 6 week home study curriculum called Dear Lover.
This way nobody has to be superior or inferior, nobody is right or wrong, you simply navigate your selves… warts and all 🙂 You both grow and evolve together into an even stronger relationship.
Isn’t that ultimately what we’re all looking for?
Don’t we all honestly know that there is no fairy tale princess and that you aren’t Prince Charming?
Don’t we all want to get rid of the pressure of having to be perfect?
Isn’t it time we let go of the illusion of perfection in others?
Isn’t it time to be the best we can, take responsibility for where we are wobbly?
Wouldn’t it work best if we simply do our work together so we thrive in deeper an deeper intimacy?
The most important thing is to stay connected, vulnerable, honest and keep your heart open… Even though that’s going to be the hardest thing in the whole wide world to do.
That’s exactly what my curriculum provides an exactly the path to a soul shaking conscious relationship… Not a perfect relationship, a conscious one that has allowance, room for growth and is a safe space to evolve.
If you see the value and long term benefit of engaging in a series of 6 private coaching sessions together with me… as many couples who are on the brink of engagement or mini newly married couples do to deepen their communication and enhance their intimacy rituals so that they affair proof their relationship and set it up to thrive… if that’s you, I invite you to apply for a complementary strategy session with me at www.allanapratt.com/connect. The return on investment just keeps giving and giving and giving 🙂 The deeper the roots… the higher the shoots!
Let me know how things unfold! I look forward to seeing you both in my calendar or sending you instant access to your home study curriculums. What if this could turn into the best thing that’s ever happened to your solid intimate relationship?
Huge love, Allana xoox
p.s. Gentlemen…End the Fear of Rejection.
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Ladies…Be irresistible. Feel sacred. Attract him now.
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