Talking about confidence is easy, but remaining confident is like a full-time job. Unless it’s habituated, you can’t fake it for so long. Eventually, you get caught when you’re body language makes you look like a meme star.
Having confidence begins in our brain, but it reflects strongly in our physique. That’s because our brain is the motor of our spiritual drives. It is, therefore, inevitable to shut down the mind-body connection, but luckily, you can stimulate it to look more confident.
You may be asking now that a confident soul will program a confident body, so what’s the point? First of all, we’re creatures who live with habits instead of instincts.
Habits are basically the conscious ways of making an instinct, as animals lack the “conscious” part. In terms of confidence, there are some habits we do effortlessly that can lower our self-esteem and maybe even draw us back to our old shy settings! who knows!
Let’s get straight to them:
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Don’t Cover Your Mouth When Smiling:
If you’re confident enough, you’re also sophisticated about your feelings. Laughter is most likely the worst feeling you should hide because it’s the most harmless. The way you laugh shows how comfortable you are with yourself.
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Don’t Silence Your Laughter:
I have a subtle crush on people who have the funniest or the most unique laughter. They’re so true to themselves that they let out their sound of joy take over everyone. It’s like not only do they express their joy, but they also put their signature sound on it! I find it so sassy!
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Don’t Get Uncomfortable By Admiring Looks:
Obviously, there’s a difference between stalking looks and looks that admire you. We’re talking about impressed eyes checking how stunning you are. Real confident people allow others to admire them, they also feel worthy to receive these comments for who they are, as they deserve it.
Never reject this blessing feedback, never say no, I’m not as gorgeous as you think, even inside your brain. Instead, savor them throughout the day and watch the magic! they work like free confidence pills.
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Don’t Postpone What You Love To Do:
“Let me bathe kids first,” “ I have to do this task first,” “movie night? sorry, I’ve got lots of work to do”. Do you use these phrases a lot? Well, then, you’re hitting your confidence right in the face.
I know life is busier in our time than it was 2 decades ago, but do you really need to sabotage yourself from doing your favorite hobbies for that? You should reconsider this. The more you invest in your happiness, the more confident you will be.
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Don’t Make Sacrifices For Others:
Unless you’re a mom or dad, making sacrifices for others doesn’t make sense. If you think people in your family/community can control their lives, then you might as well let them do it. Your quality of life totally depends on you, and if you abandon it to serve others, it will surround you with negativity.
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Don’t Double-Check All Your Words Before Speaking Them Out:
You don’t need validation to feel in a certain way, so you don’t need validation to express those feelings as long as they don’t damage others. You will look shy and insecure when you rewrite all your sentences before you speak.
This is usually a rooted psychological problem, perhaps from when we were judged for our words or they were used against us, but as adults, we can reconsider that others’ judgment or immature behavior has nothing to do with our way of expression, it’s their problem.
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Don’t Put Yourself On The Very Bottom Of Your List:
Sometimes your name is not found on the list. It’s a tiny writing on the bottom corner that nobody can read. Everyone has different priorities, i.e. you may have two jobs, a sick parent to take care of, some community work, etc., etc. In all of these, don’t put yourself at the bottom. In fact, the more humanitarian your life is, the more you want to contribute to yourself individually because all these “giving” tasks can leave you empty and drained.
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Don’t Avoid Other’s Success And Positivity:
It can make you uncomfortable to clap for the cousin in her scientific award ceremony when everyone compared you two with each other or when your not-so-favorite colleague invites you and others to a promotion dinner. All of these may surely make you jealous, uncomfortable, and unsatisfied with life.
But if you really want to maintain your confidence, you master your negative feelings and replace them with a positive attitude. This is your chance to get better at it, so you attend these not-so-pleasant events and mask everything with a warm smile and positive language. The impression you give will redefine you as a sophisticated, confident person who takes no more judgment and comparison.
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Don’t Compare Yourself With Others:
By doing so, you will go 10 years behind. The time you can focus on your personal growth and overall development in life is given to people who have no clue about how you feel.
Everyone has a story of achieving things, even if they’re spoiled kids from rich families, and our reactions will not bring us the same life. In fact, it will make us useless and demotivated. why not just count our own blessings so we can proceed better and faster?
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Don’t Trust Too Much Or Too Little:
Be your own sophisticated self that always keeps the balance in communications. When you trust too much, you may appear needy and with low self-esteem. While if you don’t trust at all, you may appear proud and carried away, and here’s the key part, your confidence should not make you feel better than others.
You’re completely equal to others in a general sense, so there’s no valid reason for a confident person to have trust issues. Everything falls perfectly when we know our worth.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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