Question: My girlfriend and I decided we should take some time away from each other. At the time I thought it was a good idea but a few weeks have passed and I miss her. She seems to be having the time of her life, so much so, that I don’t think she wants to be in relationship with me anymore. Should I talk to her about this? Or take the signs that it’s really over for real?
Answer: Well that must feel absolutely awful to be taking a break and feeling potentially lonely and sad and missing her… Only to discover she’s having the time of her life, without you! Ouch!
Great man, when you decided to take a break… Did you both decide to take a break? Did she decide to take a break and you simply agreed? Did you think at the time it was a healthy idea or did you go against your knowing? Were you potential he afraid to look weak and so you went along with it in hopes that she simply come back?
I ask because if the two of you indeed decided to take a break then you are to be having the time of your life as well… Not just her, yes? If indeed the two of you decided to take a break then there were some things you wanted to do with your time, some inner work, some guy time, focus on some challenges you’ve been avoiding, take the next step in your career, focus on your health, something… Yes?
I suppose it’s possible that she’s overcompensating trying to look like she’s not sad by having the time of her life went on the inside she’s uncomfortable and misses you but doesn’t quite understand how to come back together in a healthy balanced way that works for both of you. Or it’s possible that she really indeed is having the time of her life and had felt suffocated or stifled or had forgotten how to live a life of balance while in a conscious relationship.
I think the best thing for you to do is to notice how much of your happiness is based on what she’s doing or not doing, and instead focus on yourself for a while. It sounds like your heart is hurting if not wounded and so I really recommend this beautiful guided meditation to heal your heart that’s inside of my GHTSY 101 multi media program at my men’s site www.GetHerToSayYes.com
If a man operates from and an emasculated wounded shut down heart he either spins in his mind or gives away his power just to get affection or attention. However when his heart is healed and open he feels confident centered and grounded and he acts in alignment with his vision mission and purpose which makes him ridiculously sexy to conscious women… and especially two girlfriends when they are having the time of their life… Just sayin’ 🙂
You will be far happier in yourself and far more attractive to her when you are your best self versus pining for her attention and feeling hurt that she’s having fun without you my friend.
Go through my program and listen to that guided meditation to heal your heart as many times as you required to feel that sense of peace, approval, safety and home inside your heart.
Then from that full healed place, you will KNOW what’s true for you… to reach out and reconnect to talk about things.
My recommendation would be to reconnect because things are left incomplete… yet only to do so once you’re in your masculine power, self worth and open healed heart.
I’ve got your back.
You can do this.
All my love, Allana