Jordan Gray took an older farmer out for coffee and asked him his best advice about love and life.
His tiny spoon clanks down on to the side of his white plate as he fumbles to grasp his cup of coffee.
He is in no rush, and it seems that he has never had a rushed moment in his entire life.
He looks up at me and asks, “So, what was it that you wanted to ask me?”
This man, who I had admired from a distance for years, was now sitting in front of me, granting me access to his brilliant brain for the next forty-five minutes. I wasn’t about to waste them.
“If you could go back thirty years and tell your younger self something, what would it be?”
He took a deep breath in as if to suck the words out of the air to let them wash around in his mind. He paused. He always paused.
He looked out the window for what seemed to be an eternity. It could have been five seconds, or five minutes. Time changed when you were around him.
He then turned his head to meet my gaze and I could see the endless depth of experience in his eyes. This was a man who had truly lived his life.
“It’s all about planting seeds.”
I didn’t make a sound in hopes that he would continue.
“Life… business… love… it’s ALL about planting seeds.”
He set down his cup of coffee and leaned forwards on his elbows.
“And I’m not just saying this because I’m a farmer. It’s true.”
“Most people these days are so concerned with what results they’re getting… now… today. They’re too impatient. If you approach your life with the mindset of ‘What seeds did I plant today in my life?’ then you’ll do just fine.”
“Can you give me some examples?” I asked him.
“Well, sure. If you’re worried about not having enough money, plant some seeds in your financial life. Start some projects that will pay you long-term, not short-term. Stop looking for the quick wins… start looking to plant more seeds.”
“If you feel like there isn’t enough fun or stimulation or fulfillment in your life, start planting seeds. Dabble in new hobbies, be a beginner at something, learn to always be investing into yourself and your sense of wonder in the world.”
“If you feel like the love in your relationship is dwindling, it might be because, at some point, you stopped planting seeds. Start telling her how beautiful she is, tell her what she brings to your life, start going on dates with her again, clear out the communication channels and start remembering why you used to stay up the whole night thinking about her. Just keep planting seeds.”
“It’s so simple, yet so powerful,” I mirrored back to him.
“I’m glad you think so, son. It’s the only advice I got. If I could go back in time and tell myself one simple thing… it’d be to concern myself with planting seeds more than I concerned myself with the immediate results I got. The ego wants immediate results… but your sense of satisfaction and emotional fulfillment wants to know what seeds you’ve been planting. That’s it, that’s all.”
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