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We spend our days chasing it, running from it, and fearing it. Perfection.
We are driven to be flawless (how dare we attempt anything less?!) in how we present ourselves, how we treat others, how we raise our kids, and how we perform at work.
Ahh Perfection! The Holy Grail of parenting, marriage, and self.
It’s a crock! Perfection is a fudgin’ fallacy.
NEWSFLASH: Perfection is unachievable and, when you do get close, you will discover that it’s nothing worth writing home about. Being perfect actually makes you boring.
Has anyone ever told you how “perfect” your home looks? How you have the seemingly “perfect” marriage? And those kids of yours! Though I am sure you hear this much left often, they just behave so “perfectly” all of the time.
Bahahaha. No.
Parents who never mess up don’t exist, but parents who show up, mess up, apologize, and show up AGAIN actually promote stability (and teach their children resilience) even when they feel they are contributing to the chaos.
When parents take the time to own their own mishaps, to explain moments of imperfection — theirs, yours, or one in their immediate or extended environment — we are laying down layers and layers in their foundation.
Second NEWSFLASH: the key is being well-rounded and being someone who wants to be better because they simply want to be better; not for fame, not for success, and not for recognition. And, maybe, just maybe, the most perfect of parents are the ones that are raising their children in that same light.
In this episode of ‘I am the Worst Parent Ever’ Podcast, Robert and Nicole ask if our perfectionist tendencies rub-off or get passed-down to our children? Is perfectionism a negative quality or the character trait of the successful? Listen in to be reminded that children are innately forgiving, but how they also imitate what is exemplified for them.
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