I have been reading a great book called The Five Languages Of Love. It led me to want to ask all of you this question: Do you believe that romantic love exists?
I want all of you to have at it today on this topic, and really let loose with your thoughts on this. In terms of falling in love, do you believe it is a choice or is it something that just happens?
The book is really interesting because it really talks about how we communicate in love languages. It is really fascinating stuff, and one of the best reads I’ve had in a long time.
So let’s talk about the concept of romantic love today. Do you believe romantic love exists, or do you believe that real love is actually something much deeper?
Romantic love seems to put us in a blissful state. We’re just goofy all the time. We don’t care about work, and we certainly don’t care about our friends. We seem to miss days on end. Every phone call and every conversation feels like you are floating in la la land.
Then, all of a sudden, you start seeing the flaws and the cracks in your romantic love. Your start to see the other person for who they really are.
It is at this point that the fights and the battles may begin. The disagreements and the feelings of being misunderstood start to happen despite the fact that you explain everything about yourselves to each other.
Romantic love is a drug and, as with all drugs, it wears off. It is no different than taking Ecstasy, smoking pot or drinking booze. The effects wear off after a period of time.
Real love is something that you find over time with the person with whom you are in romantic love. Real love comes after you learn each other’s needs, wants and desires. It comes after you learn each other’s communication style, and you work on understanding and fulfilling those needs, wants and desires. Real love is being able to achieve all that.
There are a lot of us who are out there trying to meet someone and fall in love. That’s the point, right? We want to fall in love. We want to feel love. We want to be in love.
The question, though, is this: Do you only want romantic love? Some of us are just romantic love junkies who fall in love every three or four years with a different person. It is like a drug and is as addictive as can be. It is truly an amazing feeling.
What type of love do you desire? What kind of love do you want to have? What kind of love do you want to experience in your life?
Share with me today what you are really looking for on a deeper level. Imagine you have the ability to go out and meet anybody you want right this minute. When you meet that person, what kind of love do you want to experience with them? Do you want romantic love or do you want that deeper love?
This post was previously published on Davidwygant.com and is republished here with permission from the author.
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